This is a talk for parents on how to talk to your kids about their sexuality starting at aged 3 all the way up to 18. This talk focuses on Theology of the Body and gives resources and so much more. The recorded talk that goes with it can be accessed here: http://archive.org/details/BeyondTheBirdsAndTheBeesRaisingPureChildren You must click the link in blue that says; 41.2 MB Then forward to the 3 min mark to skip the intro I do give these talks around the country. To contact me; EmbracingYourGreatness@gmail.com http://EmbracingYourGreatness.org

1. Parenting The Kids
We Love

2. Are We Spiritual Beings?

3. 5 Senses
Emphasis on Body

4. A Sensual Faith
Touch;
sacramentals,
affection
Taste;
After Church
traditions?
Smell;
Incense, flowers
Visual;
Books, movies, sign
prayers, sacramentals
Hearing;

5. Seeing Is Believing

6. Subjective vs. Objective

7. Belief Systems
Subjective Objective

8. Birth to Three Years
Infants and toddlers learn through
watching and touching the world
around them. They are curious,
trusting and imaginative. They are
very willing to mirror or copy what
they see.

9. Three to Six Years
Interested in love, morality, boys and girls, babies
and God and even their own mortality. Simple
answers are best. Age appropriate words help
them to grasp a foundation from which you can
build upon later. Focus begins to be placed on the
same sex parent as they begin to identify who they
are and what it means to be a boy or girl.

10. God Made Us To Love and
Be Loved Up To Age 6
1.) GOD created the World and
Everything.
2) God made us in His image
and likeness, Male and Female
Physically and Spiritually.
Feminine and Masculine
gifts
3)The Trinity; Father, Son and
Holy Spirit

11. #1
God is our
creator.
The Creation
Story. World,
Plants, Animals,
Human Beings

12. #2
God made us with
a Body, which we
can see and a Soul,
which we cannot
see. We are made
Male or Female
And it was Very
Good!

13. #3
The Trinity; God is
love.
God is a family of
three persons;
Father, Son and
Holy Spirit .
We are His
Children and are
called to love like
the trinity.

14. Teaching The
Faith
Movies, Books, Mu
sic
Conversation Starters

16. Seven to Ten Years
Maturity varies especially between
boys and girls. Boys usually (but
not always) mature at a slower rate.
The attitudes, convictions and
character traits that will serve your
child later in life are developed here.
It is important for parents to teach
self possession, faith, prayer life (i.e.
meals, bed time, guardian prayer
etc) as well as teach them their
PERSONAL importance to God and
to all who love them. The focus
begins to be placed externally from
family life so Friends, Movies,TV,
internet, Gaming, should be
monitored.

17. Ten to Thirteen Years
Physical and emotional changes and
growth are accelerated yet
psychologically they are still trying to
catch up. We can forget they are still
just kids and not young adults yet.
The rapid changes in their
development can make them feel
awkward confused and uneasy. Body
image begins to be a part of their
identity. They can become self-
conscious, have difficulties making
decision, be unable to understand
consequences to their decisions. The
opposite sex is now on their radar.
This is where the 5 “things” begin
(more on this later).

18. Human Sexuality; The
Teen Years
Start to Notice
opposite sex

19. God’s plan, Human Sin
and Jesus’ Love
Up to age 13
1.) FREE WILL
Love and dignity of person
2.) SIN
Concupiscence, Redemption, Sacraments and Grace, self-possession is KEY
3.) Love Vs. Use; True Loves involves Self-sacrifice
God so love us that He became one of us, Jesus gives us The Church and with
it, the sacraments from which to grow in holiness. Mary’s yes gave God the body
and blood from which to offer for the world on the cross.
4.) 7 SACRAMENTS & CHURCH
Grace, body and soul
5)VOCATIONS
A calling from God. All called to be Mothers and Fathers (spiritual/Physical)
and each of us are unique unrepeatable persons with gifts and charisms for living
out that calling.

20. Free Will
Adam & Eve
Choice,
Personhood,Dignity,
Love
No Choice, object for
use

21. Human Sin
The Need For “Grace”

22. Concupiscence
temptation and the body

23. Self-
Possession
Understanding
their
temperaments
Practicing
Mortifications i.e.
fasting

24. Love Vs. Use
True Love Requires
Self-Sacrifice

25. Sacraments, Body
and Soul, Grace
Baptism: Original Sin
Reconciliation; *mortal
sin, venial sin
Eucharist; communion
Confirmation; apostles
Anointing of The
Sick; Byzantine Catholics
annoint with oil on what we
call “Ash Wednesday” to help
us on our marathon to God!
Marriage
Holy Orders

26. Unique and Unrepeatable
Gifts/Persons
As disciples, we offer our entire selves to God–including our personalities,
natural talents, education, life experience, and background–to be used for his
purposes. But when we serve God, we are not limited to just the gifts with
which we were born! Our natural talents can be wonderful tools for God’s
purposes, and sometimes a charism is added to an existing natural talent by the
Holy Spirit after an individual has undergone a deepening conversion.
Some charisms may seem “extraordinary” (such as prophecy, healing, or
discernment of spirits) and others quite “ordinary” (such as
administration, service, hospitality, or mercy), but all charisms are
empowered by God. We use our charisms together with our natural talents and
all that we are to serve God and our neighbor.

27. CHARISMS
“Charism” is the Greek word used in the New
Testament for “favor” or “gratuitous gift.”
Charisms, or spiritual gifts, are special abilities
given to all Christians by the Holy Spirit to give
them the power both to represent Christ and to
be a channel of God’s goodness for people.
Whether extraordinary or ordinary, all charisms
ought to be exercised in the service of God
(Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2003).

28. God’s plan for love and life
Recap: Up to age 13
1. We are all called to Know God
Father, Son and Holy Spirit
Free: Without strings
Total: Sacrificing for good of other
Faithful: Keeps promises,
Fruitful: it brings forth life
2. We are called to Love God
Opposite of Love is Use. We express love in and through our bodies. We are
called to give ourselves as a gift. True love involves self-sacrifice.
3.)We are called to Serve God through Relationships
God is a relationship and made us for relationship.
Friendships: do not bully, stand up for one another, not selfish, do not gossip
In marriages a husband and wife enter into a union with God that is open to
children because Children are a blessing from God. Those called to religious
life are called to be mothers and fathers.

29. Fourteen to Eighteen
Adolescence is a time of intense physical,
emotional and intellectual, social and
spiritual growth. Youth discover
themselves through interpersonal
relationships. Infatuation begins, church
teachings are questioned, new questions are
asked as teens become more capable of
abstract thought. Argumentation should be
viewed as trying to make sense of
information on this deeper level so that they
can make their relationship with God their
own. Speaking a language they can receive
becomes imperative. Not all “arguments”
are them arguing, but rather it can be a true
form of searching for truth.

30. Theology of The Body
9-12th grade
1.. Created For Love
2. Love Defined: Giving Versus Using
3. Naked without shame
4. Hope and Redemption in Christ
5. Truth and Freedom
6. Language of The Body
7. Free, Total, Faithful, Fruitful
8. Marriage
9. Celibacy and Religious life
10. Vocations
11. Dating with Purpose and Purity
12. Living it out

31. It’s not good to be alone;
created for by love, for love, to love

32. The opposite of love is use;
we are gifts, not objects
Gift
Object

33. Naked Without Shame
“In the beginning it was not so”

34. Hope and Redemption in Christ;
Union and Communion
 Ultimate fulfillment comes when we are in relationship.
 We are called to relationship and these relationships
are to be free, faithful, fruitful and total gifts of our
persons to another for the better good of the other
person. Therefore using Free, Faithful, Total and
Fruitful:
 True marriage can only be between one man and
one woman
 Homosexual acts are gravely sinful.
 Pornography, adultery, pre-marital sex are all acts to
use another as an object

35. Truth and Freedom
Truth: Objective?
Freedom; to desire and
choose the good; accepting the
responsibilities of authentic
love
Truth: Subjective?
Or Freedom; To do
whatever you want?

36. Language of The Body
Making Visible
Invisible; Not only does
our body speak a
language, we need to make
sure what is saying is truth!
Any act of physical intimacy
outside of marriage speaks a
lie because it seeks to use the
other person as an object for
selfish use.Sexting,
pornography, heavy
petting etc..

37. Free, Total,
Faithful,
Fruitful
Free: Jesus and Mary
modeled Free sacrificial
love.
Total: Willing to die,
Jesus and Mary modeled
Total love.
Faithful: Embracing the
Father’s will, Jesus and
Mary Modeled Faithful
love.
Fruitful: True love
bears spiritual and/ or
physical fruit.

38. Marriage and Holy Orders
We are all Called to
union and communion
Vocations
We are all called to Marriage. We are all called to Motherhood and Fatherhood.
Some are called to Spiritual Motherhood and Fatherhood. Although living a
consecrated single life or as a religious sister is not a sacrament, it is still a very
beautiful way to live out our call to union and communion.

39. The 5 Things
 1.) Peer Pressure
 2) Independence
 3) Curiosity
 4) To Be Loved
 5) Pleasure

40. TEN THINGS
1.)More is Caught Than Taught; Our own Ongoing Conversion
Not called to be successful just faithful
2.) SPEAK THEIR LANGUAGE
3.) COMMUNITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY
4)INTERNET
5)AFFIRMATION & AFFECTION
6.) Good and Holy FRIENDS
7.) GOALS; Putting the future on their radar
8.)VOCATIONS; DISCUSS THEM, prepare for them
9)UNIQUE UNREPEATABLE PERSONS; Identifying their gifts
10.) SACRAMENTS, SACRAMENTALS AND MORE; Living out our faith

41. More is Caught; your own
relationship with God the Father, Jesus the
Bridegroom and The Holy Spirit the paraclete
“We are not called to be successful, only called to be faithful” Mother Theresa

42. Speaking Their Language