Given some sort of crisis: can you relate to that ambiguous desire to “actually do something” while, at the same time, feeling an urge to “just hide under a blanket until this is over”? I can.
Crises always bear something new, something that wants to be uncovered and tended… besides all the easily visible “unwanted” things that come
along. When we humans find ourselves in uncertainty, we all too often find ourselves oscillating somewhere between ‘numbing’ and ‘over-action’.
So, as change supporters, as leaders, what can we do?
What can I myself do to support other human beings through change?
What can I do, is a question I asked myself A LOT of times “just for work” with teams in organizations. Now in a crisis of a magnitude like the ongoing pandemic this question got a whole different scope.
This keynote will take you on a little journey, I’ll share some of my own experiences with change… what worked, what didn’t… and most important: what I learned on that journey.
Be prepared to do less… and be more.
3. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Here I showed some screenshots of the video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHDNfoB_hCw)
They are not included in the PDF because of copyright.
The key messages of the screenshots in on slide 5.
4. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Crisis and Change
5. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
(sometimes) people...
● run around headlessly
● use tools to handle the crisis
● break things
● get hurt and hurt others
and there is...
● a lot happening all at once
● a lot of “noise” (versus: clear signals)
When there’s a Crisis...
Here I showed two screenshots of the
video
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH
DNfoB_hCw)
They are not included in the PDF
because of copyright.
The key messages are written on the
left hand side on this slide.
6. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
… things get (suddenly) different:
● lots of uncertainty
● appears or IS threatening
And: the need for changes arises.
When there’s a Crisis...
https://unsplash.com/photos/Z9arfr0f248
7. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
e.g.
● over-action or numbing
● trying to “get back” to before
● mitigate “unwanted” things
● uncover new stuff
● respecting change
● inspect & adapt
● ...
… SOME kind of change handling follows
https://unsplash.com/photos/mG28olYFgHI
8. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
women, diversity, people
through change
10. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
people...
… through change
1. make change handling
a “normal thing”
11. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
people...
… through change
✓ make change handling
a “normal thing”
1. support YOUR SELF first
2. (implicity) skill-up
3. support OTHERS (better)
18. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Be present
Be open
Do what matters
19. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being present
20. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Wirbelwind
Support Others
21. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
The “too much” & “too little” cocktail
● too many “pulls”
● too many wonderful opportunities to do… to support others
● too much passion
● too little rest
● too little presence moments
● too few “NOs” to more work
Support Others
https://unsplash.com/photos/eJ9mX6yEbAw
22. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Change willingness
is worthless
if change capacity
is depleted
https://unsplash.com/photos/Z9arfr0f248
23. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being present practises (1)
Consciously...
★ breathing
★ feeling the soles of your feet
(or the palms of your hands)
★ savouring a hot beverage
→ VAKOG (e.g. see, feel, smell)
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
24. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
“brushing
your
sanity”
Being present practises (1)
Everyday occasions:
★ breathing
★ feeling the body
○ soles, palms, but
★ savouring
○ beverages, food
○ sunlight
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
25. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Journaling
Being present practises (2)
Supports you with:
★ keeping track
(work, habits, etc.)
★ retroflecting on change work
★ staying present
★ becoming present again
Tipp: Do it (almost) daily.
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
26. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being open & letting go
27. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Support Others
we are all
“equal”
thinking
28. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
-“We do NOT learn from experience...-
-we learn from reflecting-
-on experience.” [John Dewey, educationist]-
source:https://unsplash.com/
29. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Missed a chance to support diversity...
everyone had biases
huge amount of unawareness
too much “to do”
too little time & energy to spend
Support Others
30. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
openness
Useful skill-up areas
● learn about biases
→ increases awareness
● truly truly truly listen
○ preferably to those folks
who are NOT like you
○ actively go and search for them!
○ practise open-minded listening
Skill-Up
31. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
being open
is a constant
learning process
32. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
be kind
to yourself and others
someone “messed up”?
try again, do one step better...
33. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being open & letting go
34. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Support Yourself
35. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
“letting go”
a mind & body practise
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
36. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
“letting go”
a mind & body practise
Write a limiting belief (or problem)
on a sheet of paper. Then:
1. put it in front of your face
2. sloooowly move it away
3. observe what’s happening
⇒ transition from narrow perspectives
to more, wider headspace (again)
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
37. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
_“We cannot solve problems_
_with the same thinking we used_
_when we created them.”__[Einstein]_
https://unsplash.com/photos/YU81y4-x0Bw
38. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Doing what matters
42. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Doing what
matters to YOU
43. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
It’s about values… YOUR values (1)
Uncovering your own values
and how to live up to them sounds simple
- yet it is not always so easy:
● societal influence
● external “forces” / context
● energy level ( → hamster wheel)
● ...
Support Yourself
& SkillUp
44. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
It’s about values… YOUR values (2)
Our actions are way more sustainable (for ourselves and for others)
if we “do stuff” coherent to OUR values.
Support Others
(& Yourself)
45. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Uncovering
your values...
… to do what matters to YOU
Some recommendations:
★ Core Values exercise
by Deborah Hartmann Preuss
https://abiggergame.today/bigger-on-the-inside/
★ Using (parts of) the ACT diary
by Dr. Nic Hooper & Dr. Brown
https://www.pavpub.com/mental-health/well-being/act-diary
Support Yourself
& Skill-Up
52. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Supporting
Human
Beings
… through change
✓ see change as a “normal thing”
✓ support OURSELVES first
⇒ (implicity) skill-up
⇒ support OTHERS (better)
53. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
(Be)²Do
the Minion Formula
for Change Support
54. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Be present
Be open
Do what matters
55. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
YOUR next step?
56. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Being present
57. Cosima Laube // respectAndAdapt.rocks #WiAEU2020
Three breaths