When we disagree with what is happening in our world we usually see two choices: (a) keep quiet and keep up a pretense of peace (b) disagree and risk burning bridges. Nonviolent communication provides a third option: share your own experience and ask for what is life-giving.
This talk explores the soft skill necessary to speak up in a nonviolent way. Learn to suspend judgement, feel your emotions, be vulnerable, ask for what you need and see the best in other people.
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Nonviolent Communication
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2. Nonviolent Communication
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3. They say that the human experience is shaped by two forces. The ļ¬rst is our need to be ourselves and assert our will.
4. The second is to belong to our tribe. I grew up in South Africa under apartheid. Apartheid was an oppressive political system
which runs on the belief that some people (white people) matter more than others. To keep an oppressive system like this
going, people who spoke up to disagree with the status quo were silenced.
5. Every one of us bumps into this at some point in our lives. We come to a point where, in order to be accepted by the āØ
larger culture, weāre expected to do what the culture asks of us. We edit what we truly think and feel to keep up the āØ
pretense of peace.
6. From the outside, and from a personal perspective, this way of being worked just ļ¬ne for me. I was running a successful
design business with good clients and steady income.
7. But my deep-seated fear of conļ¬ict and rejection was standing in the way of my own growth. If my partner and I disagreed
on how to run our business, instead of moving into the suffocating conļ¬ict, I would avoid it to keep the peace. But at a price:
my interior became a dumping ground of unsaid stuff.
8. Eventually this became too much for me. I knew I had to change, and I committed to make a big change in my life. Even so, I
didnāt change the way the way I related to my partnerā¦
9. Instead I changed where I lived. I left home for several months! Through the thin thread of communication still left intact, my
partner and I would have superļ¬cial conversations. I would ask, āHow are you and the business?ā And the reply was always,
āFine, thanks.ā
10. But when I got home, things were not ļ¬ne. Our clients were gone, our savings were depleted, and my partner and I were
unable to speak about the things that matter most. Oh, did I mention that my business partner and I had been married for
more than a decade? It was really important for us to speak about what matters. Initially I put on my āWe can make it workā
hat. But after several failed mediation attempts, I realized āWe are not going to make this work.ā And I got angry. Angry like a
wounded buffalo. I charged into a lawyerās ofļ¬ce and started to dictate a very harsh letter whenā¦
11. ā¦I had this moment of āOh My Goodness!ā I realized that this was not something that just happened to me. By not speaking
up for twelve years, I had co-created this outcome. If I had had the courage to speak up much earlier in this partnership,
things would be very different for me. The time had come to change: not my circumstances, but my self.
12. During this time I came across the work of Marshall Rosenberg and the concept of Nonviolent Communication, or
NVC for short.
Image of Rosenberg: http://www.nvc-uk.com/
Nonviolent Communication
13. We are all familiar with physical violence. Physical violence is a way for someone to take power over someone else. But the
interesting thing is the mindset out of which it is born. Physical violence says, āI matter more. My race, my religion, my culture,
my comfort, my kids, my safety all matter more than yours and therefore I shall act in my own self-interest and harm you.ā
Physical Violence
Worldview Dynamic Outcome
Physical harm
āØ
One party takesāØ
power over the other
14. But physical violence is not the only kind of violence. There can be violent communication also. Violent communication
shares the same worldview as physical violence. It says, āI matter more, you matter less. My priorities, my understanding of
this situation, my perception of you, my goals, my acceptance by this group, these things matter more.ā By assigning blame,
labeling, criticizing, comparing, judging and denying responsibility, one party takes power over another through language.
Communicative Violence
Worldview Dynamic Outcome
Inner harm
Stuck in conļ¬ictāØ
or compliance
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15. Violent communication causes mental or emotional wounding. It sends the message that the other person is wrong or bad,
that they matter less, that they are broken, insufļ¬cient and not worthy of time or attention. This works well if you want to keep
an oppressive system in place and keep people feeling inferior and disempowered. But that story belongs to our past. It is
not the future we are here to create.
Communicative Violence
Worldview Dynamic Outcome
Inner harm
Stuck in conļ¬ictāØ
or compliance
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16. Nonviolent communication starts by changing the worldview from exclusion to inclusion, where both parties matter equally.
It changes the relational dynamic from a power-infused hierarchy to two whole and equal parties that are able to share their
experience and ask for what they need. This results in mutual understanding and respect, and offers both the opportunity āØ
to change.
Nonviolent Communication
Worldview Dynamic Outcome
Honest communication
Connection
Transformation
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Rosenberg breaks NVC down into four components or steps. Following them helps us practice nonviolent communication.
These components can be used both when we speak and when we listen. Letās take an example: your team meeting starts at
9a.m. For the third time, John arrives at 9:15 and joins the meeting without a word.
Four Components of the NVC Frame
1. Observation.
2. Feeling.
3. Need.
4. Request.
āWhen this happenedā¦ā
āIāve felt this wayā¦ā
āBecause I have a need/hope/valueā¦ā
āCould you pleaseā¦?ā
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Violent communication would judge his behavior. It would say, āJohn, it is rude of you to come in late.ā Or it would passive-
aggressively hoard the judgmental feelings, then later communicate to him that he is an uncommitted slacker. āØ
But nonviolent communication reacts by using the four components: āHey John, when you arrived at 9:15 for the third time
this month, I felt frustrated, because I need consistency in our team meetings. Is it possible for you to arrive at 9a.m.?ā
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Four Components of the NVC Frame
1. Observation.
2. Feeling.
3. Need.
4. Request.
āWhen this happenedā¦ā
āIāve felt this wayā¦ā
āBecause I have a need/hope/valueā¦ā
āCould you pleaseā¦?ā
19. When there are conļ¬icting views of a situation, NVC provides us with a third option. Rather than choosing violence over the
other person or choosing the violence of silencing yourself, NVC provides the option of showing up, connecting to the truth
of your own experience, and speaking honestly from there.
Nonviolent Communication
Not Taking Power Over
Not Silencing Yourself
Honestly Speaking Up
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NVC is also about becoming a person who is skilled at living nonviolently. At ļ¬rst, I couldnāt do this. Having been around
violent communication for so many years, my default was to protect myself by staying under the radar. āDonāt think, donāt
feel, donāt speakā was the motto I used to get by. Let me tell you a bit about what Iāve been learning as we walk through the
four steps.
Skills Behind NVC
1. Observation.
2. Feeling.
3. Need.
4. Request.
Can you be present?
Can you sense & say what you feel?
Do you know what you need to be okay?
Can you ask for what you need?
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Letās go back to the example of John arriving at 9:15. Step one is to become the observer. Suspend judgment, go into
camera mode, and simply observe that John arrives 15 minutes after the agreed starting time.
1. Observation.
2. Feeling.
3. Need.
4. Request.
Observation.
What to do:
Become the Observer:
State what is actually happening.
Suspend judgement and be present.
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This is hard for me, because my mind is a judging machine! When something happens, without a moment of pause, I jump
straight into my assessment of the situation or person.
Difļ¬culty: My Mind is a Judging Machine!
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And then I put that person in a box. In this case I say, āJohn is a slacker.ā As a result, two things happen:
1. I start to believe my label over reality, then treat John accordingly. I expect him to be late and to hand in poor work. āØ
2. I also cut myself off from the gifts, the intelligence, the perspective that John brings to the group. It is a loss to have this
amazing human being on my team with which I share no connection, and whose talents, passions and quirks I have no āØ
access to.
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So the invitation is to catch myself when I go into judgment, and instead choose to go into camera mode. This way I can see
the person for who they are and be present to the moment we share right now, simply as it is.
Invitation: Become the Observer!
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Here are two tips: āØ
First, Google the āLadder of inference.ā It will help you understand the effect our judgments have on our world. āØ
Practice Suspending Judgment.
ā¢ Learn how judgment effects us.
ā¢ Get to know your mental ļ¬ling cabinet.
Practice this each day: write for 8 minutes without stopping,
without lifting your pen, just pouring out whatever comes up in āØ
your mind. (Google āfreewritingā for more about this method.)
Google the āladder of inference.ā
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Secondly, get to know your mental ļ¬ling cabinet. Mindfulness exercises are a great tool for observing your mind and
building the neural circuitry required to be an observer. When I came to this work, my monkey mind was such a mess, it was
not possible for me to observe it. Instead I used freewriting as a tool to watch my mind. I would put pen to paper and pour
my thoughts out without stopping. Over weeks of doing this, the habitual boxes that I ļ¬le life into became apparent and
easier to recognize in the moment I reach for them.
Practice Suspending Judgment.
ā¢ Learn how judgment effects us.
ā¢ Get to know your mental ļ¬ling cabinet.
Practice this each day: write for 8 minutes without stopping,
without lifting your pen, just pouring out whatever comes up in āØ
your mind. (Google āfreewritingā for more.)
Google the āladder of inference.ā
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Feelings are our bodyās way to mirror the truth of our felt experience to the mind. In this step, we are invited to become
aware of how the situation makes you feel, and to share it with John. āJohn, when you arrived at 9:15 for the third time, I feltā¦
wait, what do I feel?ā
1. Observation.
2. Feelings.
3. Needs.
4. Request.
Feelings.
What to do:
Become Embodied:
Notice and name your feelings.
Welcome, trust, express feelings.
2. Feelings.
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Actually, I donāt know what I feel. The world that shaped me wasnāt an emotional place. My culture encouraged people to feel
excited, but not too excited. My culture would pat someone on their back when they felt sad, and ask them to get over it
asap. It frowned upon fear. It didnāt tolerate anger and pretended that disconnection was not a thing.
Feelings: The Wisdom of our Body Speaking
Excited
amazed
animated
ardent
aroused
astonished
dazzled
eager
energetic
enthusiastic
giddy
Sad
hopeless
depressed
dejected
despair
despondent
disappointed
discouraged
disheartened
forlorn
gloomy
Afraid
apprehensive
dread
foreboding
frightened
panicked
petriļ¬ed
scared
suspicious
terriļ¬ed
wary
Angry
hopeless
depressed
dejected
despair
despondent
disappointed
discouraged
disheartened
forlorn
gloomy
alienated
aloof
apathetic
bored
cold
detached
distant
distracted
indifferent
numb
Disconnected
This list is from the NVC website - and this is just the beginning of the list!
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It is uncomfortable to feel things that you are not encouraged to express. In an attempt to lessen the discomfort, I would
migrate my attention away from my body and into my mind. I would go about my day like a backhoe: chopping away at my
to-do list, ignoring any pesky feelings that came in the way of my tasks. When I got home after work, I would often ļ¬nd a
burning urge inside me: a desire to punch something, or to eat an entire tub of Ben and Jerryās chocolate ice cream.
Difļ¬culty: The Mind and Body Disconnect!
30. Connecting back to my body and my felt experience was (well, is ā Iām still learning) a long & slow journey. I took small steps.
First I just became aware of my feelings.
Invitation: Recognize, Trust, & Express Feelings
1. Become aware of my feelings.
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31. Then I allowed myself to feel what I feel fully. When your default is to run from your feelings, it can be really difļ¬cult to sink
into them. Strong emotions pass through your body in about 90 seconds. When you allow these strong feelings to move
through you, you can reach a point where your world turns black and it feels unbearable. It is darned uncomfortable when a
12-foot whale of sadness swims through your psyche, or an angry herd of buffalo charges through your chest. But if you just
stay present, soon enough that feeling will move away and a sense of peace will return.
1. Become aware of my feelings.
2. Allow myself to feel.
Invitation: Recognize, Trust, & Express Feelings
(2/5)
32. I use drawing, writing, and dancing to externalize what Iām feeling. This helps me to get my inner world out where I can see
and understand it better. Sometimes I ask myself questions like, āHey love, I sense your frustration. Could you tell me more?ā
Then I listen for the story under the emotion.
1. Become aware of my feelings.
2. Allow myself to feel.
3. Explore my inner-life through writing.
Invitation: Recognize, Trust, & Express Feelings
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33. At some point I started to share my feelings with people around me. At ļ¬rst I only shared it with people with whom I could
trust my feelings.
1. Become aware of my feelings.
2. Allow myself to feel.
3. Explore my inner-life through writing.
4. Say it where it is safe.
Invitation: Recognize, Trust, & Express Feelings
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34. As I got more comfortable with expressing my feelings, I share them in contexts that I would never have previously imagined,
like client meetings.
1. Become aware of my feelings.
2. Allow myself to feel.
3. Explore my inner-life through writing.
4. Say it where it is safe.
5. Say it where it is less safe.
Invitation: Recognize, Trust, & Express Feelings
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Here are two things you can do.
First, do a body scan several times a day as a way to check in with your felt experience. This is easy, and takes no more than a
minute. Close your eyes and bring your full attention to your head. What are you feeling in your eyes, your jaw? Whatās
happening in your mouth? Continue, and scan the whole of your body. All you need to do is to notice and stay present to the
sensations you feel. Thatās it. You can end by taking a few deep breaths and resting your attention in your feet.
Practice Being Embodied
ā¢ Body scan.
ā¢ Fully experience your emotions.
Allow yourself to fully feel the emotion that is passing through
your body.
Take a minute and scan your body - notice how and what you feel where.
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The second thing you can practice is to really feel your feelings when they arrive. Go to a quiet place if you need to, and
allow that whale of a feeling to swim through you. Remember to do two things:
ā¢ Body scan.
ā¢ Fully experience your emotions.
Allow yourself to fully feel the emotion that is passing through
your body.
Take a minute and scan your body - notice how and what you feel where.
Practice Being Embodied
(2/3)
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1. Suspend your story about the feeling (e.g. āI should not be feeling this, this is uncomfortable, that person is a pig-pieā) and
2. Keep breathing! By breathing deeply, you tell your brain that things are ok, you neednāt go into ļ¬ght-or-ļ¬ight mode. This
might feel uncomfortable, but itās really important. Feelings are like farts ā keeping them inside just is not a good thing!
ā¢ Body scan.
ā¢ Fully experience your emotions.
Allow yourself to fully feel the emotion that is passing through
your body.
Take a minute and scan your body - notice how and what you feel where.
Practice Being Embodied
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Thirdly, here is some advice. It might not seem clear when I ļ¬rst say it, but I will explain. Hereās the advice: become whole and
value what you need. In the NVC frame weāll say, āSo John, when you arrived at 9:15 for the third time this month, I felt
frustrated, because I need consistency in our team meetings.ā
1. Observation.
2. Feelings.
3. Needs.
4. Request.
Needs.
What to do:
Become Whole:
Identify your need.
Value what you need.
3. Needs.
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Down at the bottom, below our opinions, stories, skin colors and titles are a big deep reservoir of human needs that connect
us to one another. When I say, āI don't like how you are running this meeting,ā we can argue about it. But when I say, āI need
some freedom or clarity or a sense of purpose,ā then we both, at some point in our lives, have felt this. In NVC we are asked
to feel for and say what it is we need at this moment.
Examples of Needs
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Yet for me, saying what I need at work did not feel comfortable. In my mind, work is about getting stuff done, not talking
about soft stuff like feelings and needs. But our culture shapes us, and we in return shape our culture.
If the culture affects us in a negative way and we keep quiet, we continue that pattern of negativity. If, on the other hand we
push back, our actions affect our culture.
Culture: See Our Place in It
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If youāre used to believing that your experience doesnāt matter, and now you start acting as though it does, it feels scary. āØ
The ļ¬rst time I used NVC, I had it all written out and I was shaking as I read from my piece of paper. I felt so vulnerable.
Speaking up means you are becoming visible, and when you become visible you open yourself up to being rejected,
criticized, belittled.
Culture: See Our Place in It
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For much of my life the idea of being rejected terriļ¬ed me. I believed I was dependent on othersā approval to feel safe and
worthy in the world.
Difļ¬culty: Needing Approval
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The invitation is to internalize our worth. To create a safe, warm inner sanctuary that welcomes, approves of and cares for
both our shiny victorious parts and our shadowy failing parts. This space of unconditional acceptance becomes a source of
inner strength for us to stand on and speak from.
Invitation: Value Yourself, Approve of Yourself
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So, here I am working in an ofļ¬ce with Erik. Whenever Sarah, who cleans our ofļ¬ce, comes in, he doesnāt make eye contact.
And when she initiates a conversation, he seldom responds. This makes me angry. But Iāve learned that directing my anger at
another human being is not helpful. I need to go deeper.
Invitation: Value Yourself, Approve of Yourself
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Even though Erik is my senior by far and I would prefer not to offend him, I care enough for myself to make sure my needs
are met too. I feel hesitant, but hey, I try. āErik, when you donāt talk to Sarah, I feel sad. Because I have a need to belong to an
ofļ¬ce where we treat everyone with the greatest respect. Could I please ask you to notice when she comes in and
acknowledge the work she does here?ā Something opened. I saw a new side of Erik, and Erik saw a new side of life. We are
able to have deeper conversations about the world we co-create every day.
Invitation: Value Yourself, Approve of Yourself
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Practice this.
Self-acceptance: one of our deepest needs is to be seen, to be heard, to be loved and appreciated. Start by noticing,
appreciating and writing down two or three good things you do everyday.
Practice Caring for Yourself
ā¢ Self-Acceptance
ā¢ Asking for what you need
When you notice that you feel off balance, ask yourself, āWhat do I
feel, and what do I need in order to feel better?ā
At the end of your day, write down three things you did that you
are grateful for.
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Asking for what you need: When you notice that you feel off balance, take a moment and ask yourself, āHey dear, what are
you feeling?ā And then, āCan you tell me what you need in order to feel better?ā Listen for it, and take an action to help
yourself feel better. When we listen for and meet our own needs, we learn to cultivate a trusting relationship with ourselves.
This becomes good practice to identify our needs and ask others for help.
Practice Caring for Yourself
ā¢ Self-Acceptance
ā¢ Asking for what you need
When you notice that you feel off balance, ask yourself, āWhat do I
feel, and what do I need in order to feel better?ā
At the end of your day, write down three things you did that you
are grateful for.
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48. The last step in NVC is to become a visionary and to make your request. āSo John, when you arrived at 9:15 for the third time,
I felt frustrated, because I need consistency in our team meetings. Could you please help me understand why you arrive
when you do?ā Or, āCould you please arrive at 9a.m.?ā
1. Observation.
2. Feelings.
3. Needs.
4. Request.
Request.
What to do:
Become a Visionary:
Ask for what will be great.
See the value of others.
4. Request.
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When we stand in a relationship of equals, where both parties are seen as responsible for their own well-being and are
capable of caring for the relationship as a whole, it is easy to ask for something like feedback, clarity or action.
The Ideal Relationship: We Are Equal!
Give and Receive
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We have adopted a cultural belief that our roles equal our worth. The higher up you move in the organization, the better you
are and the more entitled you are to ask things of other people. The inverse is also true. Seeing one another as un-equals
stands in the way of good relationships. Relationships of equality and a worldview where everyoneās needs matter are the
foundation from which good communication grows.
More Common: We Are Unequals
Give and Give
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Every day, we meet people who we may think of as either better or worse than us. And we can get stuck in that story. We can
start to believe that story over reality and give into the idea that āthey will never change.ā
Invitation: Speak to Each Otherās Best Future Possibility
(1/5)
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I have many of those stories that can keep me stuck in a relational dynamic. For example, here I was joining a new ļ¬rm after
the one in South Africa closed. I have a new colleague and I ļ¬nd that I am not using my voice strongly. All the stereotypes
that can keep me silent apply. I am female, he is male. I am from Africa: this is not my turf, the U.S. is his home base. I am
young, I have less experience. He is much older and agile in this world. English is not my ļ¬rst language and Iām slow to ļ¬nd
words. English is the air he breathes. And so on.
Invitation: Speak to Each Otherās Best Future Possibility
(2/5)
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We are often in client meetings together, and Iāve sat through several with my foot in my mouth. For a while there I was
tempted to believe the story that āthis is just how things are, how he is, how I am, how the world works.ā For another while I
was scolding myself for having such a soft voice. Neither stories satisļ¬es. I believe in partnerships of equality where we can
ļ¬nd ways for all the voices in the room to be heard. And I believe most people are capable of creating these spaces.
Invitation: Speak to Each Otherās Best Future Possibility
(3/5)
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So, here I go and I say āMarc, when we are in that client meeting and I donāt speak at all, I feel annoyed. I have a big need to
bring my voice and opinion into the conversation. Yet, for many reasons (I list them) I ļ¬nd it hard to speak up. Could you
please help me by leaving some space in the conversation before you share your opinion or, if you think of it, ask for mine?ā
Invitation: Speak to Each Otherās Best Future Possibility
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Most human beings prefer true collaboration and inclusion over pretense and compliance. Step by step, conversation by
conversation, meeting by meeting, the dynamics we participate in can change.
Invitation: Speak to Each Otherās Best Future Possibility
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Here are two last tips:
Question your story. Practice questioning the story you carry inside you about the people in your life and your role in the
relationship. What if your voice really matters and needs to be hear? What if they are capable of hearing it?
Practice Being a Visionary
ā¢ What if my story is not true?
ā¢ Go for an empathy walkāØ
Ask your difļ¬cult co-worker to go with you on a walk. Donāt speak,
just listen to them: who is this person becoming?
As you become aware of the stories you tell yourself about others,
stop and ask yourself āwhat if my story is not true?ā
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Empathy walk: You know that difļ¬cult co-worker you believe is never going to change? Yes, that one. Ask them to go on a
long walk with you. Open your heart fully, turn into a sea of listening. In your heart, just hold the question: āWho is this
person becoming?ā And when you get home, start to wonder, āHow can I become part of this personās success?ā
ā¢ What if my story is not true?
ā¢ Go for an empathy walkāØ
Ask your difļ¬cult co-worker to go with you on a walk. Donāt speak,
just listen to them: who is this person becoming?
As you become aware of the stories you tell yourself about others,
stop and ask yourself āwhat if my story is not true?ā
Practice Being a Visionary
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We have all internalized relational stances that have kept us safe and able to function in our culture. But if our intention is to
become all of who we are and stand in authentic relationship with our colleagues, the invitation is to shift how we relate to
each other, and to shift our communication towards nonviolence.
Becoming: Unequal to Equal, Violent to Nonviolent
59. This process of becoming takes time. Itās like shifting your physical posture. You may experience moments of surprise when
you suddenly realize something about yourself like, āOMG, I donāt speak about what matters.ā
Becoming: A long and iterative process
1. Become aware of my pattern.
(1/5)
60. And then you will enter a very difļ¬cult stage in the change process where you are aware of your undesirable habit, but
because you have not yet developed a new habit, you are unable to change what you are doing. Please be kind to yourself.
Itās normal!
1. Become aware of my pattern.
2. Aware and unable to shift.
(2/5)
Becoming: A long and iterative process
61. Next, youāll begin to notice that you are able to try something different. Great! Try it! Youāll have some successes and some
failures. Here are two failures I recommend you watch out for:
1. Using the NVC frame with a violent mindset; āØ
2. Using NVC over email when youāre afraid to say it face to face.
1. Become aware of my pattern.
2. Aware and unable to shift.
3. Try something new, you will fail.
(3/5)
Becoming: A long and iterative process
62. Learn from your actions and try again and again and againā¦
1. Become aware of my pattern.
2. Aware and unable to shift.
3. Try something new, you will fail.
4. Learn, adjust, and try again.
(4/5)
Becoming: A long and iterative process
63. ā¦ until your new way of being becomes your new normal.
1. Become aware of my pattern.
2. Aware and unable to shift.
3. Try something new, you will fail.
4. Learn, adjust, and try again.
5. New becomes new normal.
(5/5)
Becoming: A long and iterative process
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For Your Journey
ā¢ Leave violent self-talk behind.
ā¢ Cultivate awareness, openness, courage, self compassion and vulnerability.
ā¢ Remember it is not only about the frame, it is about cultivating a non-violent
way of being and speaking from there
Self-criticism, blame and shame will keep you small & stuck.
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Ponds dry up, and then it rains again. Partnerships dissolve, and then we build new ones. It has been four years since Iāve
been introduced to NVC. Iāve changed a great deal and so has my life. I ļ¬nd myself in relationships characterized by equality,
care and respect and Iām actively participating in shaping and being shaped by them. Together with my colleague, I do work
I deeply care about: helping students, teams and organizations become the change they long for.
Good Things Ahead!
SVA CMU Fit Associates
66. Iām not sure where you ļ¬nd yourself on this journey, but I would like to encourage you. Being here at this conference means
you are on your journey of becoming someone who dares, who takes risks and participates in creating a better world.
ā¢ It gets easier
ā¢ You get wiser
ā¢ You will feel fear
ā¢ You will experience great freedom
On your journey: Remember
67. I look forward to a future where each of us show up authentically, connect and communicate honestly and work together to
become and build the future we long for. Go dive into this journey, youāre going to be just ļ¬ne!
Go Dive In!
Thank you.