This document outlines strategies for working with resistant clients and families. It discusses various types of resistant families and challenges counselors may face. Key strategies covered include using motivational interviewing techniques like expressing empathy, developing discrepancy, rolling with resistance and supporting self-efficacy. Other approaches discussed are solution focused therapy, using reflections, decisional balance worksheets, exploring ambivalence, and eliciting change talk through evocative questions. The document provides examples of how to implement these strategies in counseling sessions.
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Heroic Journeys: Working with Resistant Clients and Families
1. Heroic Journeys -Working with
Resistant Clients and Families
Dr Louise A. Stanger Ed.D ,
LCSW, BRI II, CIP
MINT Trainer of Trainers
Faculty SDSU
Director All About Interventions
Member at Large Association of
Intervention Specialists
Member Network Of
Independent Interventionists
National Association of Social
Workers
2. Objectives
Identify and describe the resistant client
Learn alignment strategies using
Motivational Interviewing and Solution
Focused Therapy
Practice the art of Crucial Conversations
Learn Parallel Processes
Identify Emotional Attunement
Practice Reflective Listening and Speaking
Identify Ways to Integrate these strategies
into your practice
12. Families that have Substance Abuse and
Mental health
Are behavioral systems in which SA and MH-related behaviors have
become the central organizing structure
An identity is forged around this, family accommodates to the special
needs of the person with SA or MH behavior
Daily rituals reflect this new identity and can alter the balance that
exists between growth and regulation in the family
Families begin to count on a conscious or unconscious way of this new
identity and are somewhat resistant to change in other words SA is
actually maintained by the family
Hence the introduction of change most often appears as emphasis on
short tem stability at the expense of long term growth.
Family distortions
16. Family Fusion
Lack of personal space
Taking over-Controlling
Blurred Lines
Blaming
Power
Denying
Rescuing Faulty Reasoning
Boundaries
17. Before Treatment Families
Confused
Bewildered
Attached to The Problem
Deny
Minimize
Operate From a Base of
Fear –Fear for their lives,
what’s going to happen etc
(Dr. Candace Till)
19. So What Type of Families Do You
Encounter
Agreeable Family –Does everything you ask
The Invisible Family-always in the background
The Questioner- calls all the time and emails …
The Know it all-Knows everything about everything
The Talker – Talks –Talks and Talks
The Complainer- Nothing is ever good enough
The Worrier
The Micro-Manager
The Confuser says one thing does completely the opposite.
22. Families are Hurting Experts (SFT)
1.Client is the expert about their
own life
2. Professionals adopt posture of
not knowing (easier said then
done)!
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Families/Clients are experts
3. Counselor expertise is
called along the way.
4. Remember this is not
about you
5. Avoid one upmanship
25. Assumption Families are motivated
Probability of behavior
change or movement toward
or against goal
Extrinsic…….
Intrinsic ……
What are they motivated to
do?
26. Parallel Processes
Families must have opportunities
to grow alongside their loved one
that is in treatment
The Truth is all parents fail their
children…..
The Task of growing is to find our
own ways of parenting ourselves
To Parent from a Place of Love
Krissy Pozatek. LICSW
27. Parallel Process
Letting Go of the reins
Emotional Attunement
Listening-Reflective
Learning how to speak
Shifting Responsibility Back to
your loved one
29. What if
The Parent is right
The Procedures and or
policies are incorrect
The flow of information is
wrong
The presentation of material
needs adjusting
The parents get caught in an
alienation coalition
30. Recovery Issues
Issues Early Middle Advanced
Grieving Identify ones
losses
Learning to grieve Grieve past and
present losses
Neglecting ones
own needs
Realization of
needs
Beginning to get
needs met
Getting needs met
Being Over
responsible
Identifying
boundaries
Setting limits Responsible for
self-clear
boundaries
Low self-esteem Identify Sharing Affirming –
improved SE
Control Identify Taking
responsibility
Responsibility&
letting go
All or none
thinking
Recognize &
identify
Learning there are
choices
Multicolored
world
Being Real Recognize Risking being real Being real
31. Recovery Issues
Issues Early Middle Advanced
Trust Trust can be
helpful
Selective
Trusting
Trusting
appropriately
Feeling Recognizing &
Identifying
Experiencing Observing &
Using
Hi Tolerance
inappropriate
beh.
Questioning
behaviors
Learning Knowing &
having safe folks
Abandonment &
Conflict
Recognizing &
Identifying
Grieving &
Resolving
Freedom From &
work thru current
conflicts
Giving and
Receiving Love
Defining: What is
love
Practicing Refining, loving
self, higher power
Dependence &
Independence
Identifying Learning/
Practicing
Being healthy
33. In between the cravings
Find the Spaces In between
Omar Manejawa MD
Cravings – Myopic
Spaces- Change
Habits -Actions
34. Motivational Interviewing
Directive client center
approach
Process not Technique
Collaborative
Evocation- elicit clients
internal viewpoint
Autonomy
Roll With Resistance
35. MI Spirit
Rogerian approach
Coupled with a direction
Equalitarian
Warm, Empathetic, Affirming
Respectful,
Responsive
Guiding & eliciting vs.
instructing & persuading
36. Characteristics of MI
Counselor is active and directive
Counselor helps shape behavior
MI strategy is specific and systematic
Consistent with principles of client choice and
empowerment
Consistent with cultural sensitivity in that client leads and
counselors agenda is not imposed
37. Traps to Avoid
Question-Answer
Labeling Trap – dx codes
Premature Focus Trap-start with
clients concern not yours
Expert
Taking sides
Blaming Others _ who is to
blame is not as important as to
what your concerns are
38. MI Principles EE-DD-RR-SS
Express Empathy
Develop Discrepancy- help one get unstuck from ambivalent
feelings
Roll with Resistance ( get out of the way )
Support Self Efficacy ( Bandura) The capacity of a person to
believe they can carry specific act or behavior
39. How to Express Empathy
Use your Oars
Open Ended Questions
Affirmations
Reflections
Summaries
40. What Type of Communication Skills Do you
Have?
Echo Key Words
Open Ended Questions
Paraphrase
Body Language
Summarize
Self -Disclose
42. Listening Exercise
Break up in dyads
I want a new phone or I
want to leave treatment
Practice Listening – 3
minutes- Listen to what
is said and what is unsaid
Debrief
43. Personal Roadblocks
Kids are sick
Had a fight with partner
Phones are ringing-cannot
spend a lot of time
Woke up late
Boss is edgy
Oh no not that Family– AGAIN !
45. 12 Roadblocks to Listening
7.Agreeing, approving, praising
8. Shaming, ridiculing or
labeling
9. Interpreting or analyzing
10. Reassuring, sympathizing
11. Questioning or probing
12.Withdrawing, distracting
46. Assumptions To Avoid
Person OUGHT to change
Person WANTS to change
Persons health is prime
motivation factor
If she/he decides not to
change consultation is a
failure
Individuals are either
motivated to change or
they are not
Now is the right time to
consider change
A tough approach is always the
best approach
I am the expert and know best
I am right my child, young
adult , grown child is wrong
A equalitarian approach is
always best
47. Listen Reflectively- Listen with Emotional Attunement
Being quiet and actively
listening
Responding with a statement
that accurately reflects the
essence of what the client
meant
Listen carefully think
Reflections
48. Reflections
Think in terms of
forming an hypotheses
or best guess at what
client is saying
Take a guess –Do you
mean…
You have to
differentiate between
a question and a
statement
Voice goes down at end of
statement rather then up
with a question
“It sounds like you are
angry with your mother …
A statement does not
require an answer .
Used strategically
emphasize, clients view ,
feelings, ambivalence,
emotion change talk
49. Level of Reflection
Repeating repeat what someone has just said
Rephrase – substitute a few different words
Paraphrasing-make a fairly major restatement
inferring what you think a person has said
Reflecting feeling – special kind of paraphrase
where you are not necessarily reflecting content
rather feeling
50. Simple Reflection
Client: This parent is driving
me crazy trying to make a
decision
Counselor; Her methods are
really bothering you
Client: I don’t have anything to
say
Counselor- You are not feeling
talkative today
51. Amplified Reflections
Exaggerate what client says
be careful not to be sarcastic
So if I hear you correctly your
son/daughter needs…you to
bring him xx
So you are likely to keep
bailing ..
52. Other strategies for Handing Resistance
Clarification
Shift focus away
from stumbling block
Emphasize Personal
Choice and Control
53. Provide Summaries
Communicate what you have tracked what the client has said so
that you have understanding of what is being said
Helps structure session so you do not get sidetracked
Provide opportunity to emphasize statements a client has made
about change talk gives client another opportunity to hear
what she has said in context provided by the counselor
Example
Jonathan it sounds like you have made the choice to seek
continuing care. If I heard you correctly you said it feels like the
right thing thou scary thing to do. You have started to look at
some structured living situations that include monitoring and
help worth getting a job etc…..
54. Decisional Balance Worksheet
(Fill in what you are considering as change )
Good things about
Changing behavior
Good things about
changing behavior
Not so good things about
behavior
Not so good things about
changing behavior
56. DARN (Desire, Ability , Reason, Need)
What do you think you will do ?
What does this mean about your
habit ?
What are your options?
What's the next step for you?
What are some good things
about making a change ?
Where does this leave you?
60. Signs of Resistance
Arguing
Challenging
Interrupting
Resisting
Discounting
Hostility
Discouraging
Ignoring
Inattention
Not Talking
Side Stepping=Filibustering
Taking Over
Cutting Off
Denying
Blaming
Excusing
Claiming impunity
Minimizing
Catastrophizing
Pessimism
Unwillingness to Change
Demanding
61. Ten Strategies for Evoking Change
1. Ask Evocative questions
Why would you want to make this change? (Desire)
How might you go about that ? (Ability)
What are the three best reasons for doing that ?
(Reasons)
How important is it for you to make this change?
(Need)
So what do you think you will do? (Commitment)
62. Ten Strategies for Evoking Change
2. Ask for Elaboration
When change talk emerges ask for more detail. In what ways?
3. Ask For Examples
Ask for specific examples, when was the last time that happened
? give me an example
4. Look Back
Ask about a time before current concern emerged. How were
things better? different?
63. Ten Strategies for Evoking Change
5. Looking Forward-
What would happen if things stay the
same/ If you are 100% successful in
making changes you want what
would life look like ?
6. Extremes
What is the worst thing that could
happen? What is the best thing that
could happen
64. Ten Strategies for Evoking Change
7. Use Change Rulers
On a scale of 1-------------------
10
8. Explore Goals and Values
What are the persons values
and goals
9. Join up –Come along side
65. Ten Strategies for Evoking Change
10. Responding to Change Talk
(EARS)
EXPLORE
AFFIRM
SUMMARIZE
66. Solution Focused Coaching
1. Not necessary to understand
deeper cause or meaning
2. Goals are defined by client,
focusing on the possible and
changeable, honoring client
choice
3. Small change is often all that is
possible
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67. Assumptions of SFT
4. When goal is defined by client,
you have cooperative client
5. Counselor, interventionist,
admissions, call center person
adopt a posture of inquiry, of
not knowing
68. Assumptions of SFT
4. When goal is defined by
client, you have cooperative
client
5. Counselor, interventionist,
admissions, call center person
adopt a posture of inquiry, of
not knowing
69. Crucial Conversations
1. Client is always right
2. Agree with clients goal, its
about choice
3. Use client’s language
4. Develop Compliments to
support change
70. Talking With Families
4. Develop Compliments to support
change
5. Provide bridging statement and
rationale for suggestions
6. Assign Tasks based on
relationships
7. Seek solutions
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73. Compliments
Direct: Positive verb, attribute
or reaction to client
Indirect-Something that implies
positive
Self Compliment- “I”
statement
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74. Assignments
Always based on relationship
Readiness to Change
Focus on Attainable goals
Design ,Small steps Proceed
slowly
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75. Cases
I want to know everything
that is said in treatment
You are not responding to my
child’s needs
76. King Baby
I am very important
and only can talk
with the CEO at least
3 times a day at my
loved one
77. Queen Baby
The problem is you, your treatment
center does not understand our
daughter. She is unique
My daughter must talk to me at
least once a day
My daughter demand s a special diet
My daughter wants her phone
78. Family’s After Treatment –Heroic
Operate from a Place of Love
Shift Responsibility from
bailing out to responsible
choice
Attunement
Individualization
Healthy Boundaries-enforce
consequences Own Recovery
Talking care of themselves
Good physical health
Emotionally sound
Acting from ones values
81. Resources
The Daring Way- Brene Brown
Crucial Conversations – Patterson etal
The Parallel Processs- Kathy Prozatek LICSW
The Journey of The Heroic Parent –Brad M Reedy PHD
If You Meet The Buddah On The Road-Kill Him- Sheldon Kopp
Motivational Interviewing- Miller and Rollnick
http://www.motivationalinterviewing.org
Solution Focused Therapy= Young and Berg
http://www.solutionfocused.net
Dr Louise Stanger http://www.allaboutinterventions.com
Editor's Notes
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