Boost your self esteem in just 15 minutes with these powerful messages that cut straight to the root of why we have low self worth. You deserve to feel good about who you are, and empowered to build your best life!
2. Welcome!
Hey! This is a super-quick free course to help you boost
your self-esteem. Just before we get into it, let me
introduce myself…
3. I’m Louisa. Hey!
I used to have really bad self esteem – I
was totally unconfident, I knew I wasn't
getting the most out of life, and I didn't
know where to head. But now I've
turned it around and I feel better than I
ever have before.
If you want a quick boost or a total self-
esteem overhaul, you’re in the right
place.
REMEMBER: You have the power to
turn your self esteem around!
4. What is self esteem?
Our self esteem is the amount of value we give
ourselves, based on a scale of worth we use to evaluate
ourselves and others. These values vary from person to
person. Whilst others might rate us as being of high
value, often we can consider ourselves to be of much
lower value.
5. If we continue to
think negatively
about ourselves,
this then
becomes habit.
Low self esteem
(placing little
value on
ourselves) is the
result of this.
6. Why do we get low self esteem?
This could be for many reasons:
Being judged by others, for example people thinking
we’re not worthy of respect.
Being valued by others only when we achieve, or only
when we pretend to be what they want us to be, for
example our friends who only seem to want to spend
time with us if we pretend to fit in, not when we’re being
ourselves.
People who mean a lot to us putting us down, for
example a partner or close friend insulting us.
7. Being judged or put down by others, even if it was a long
time ago.
And even the messages our parents communicated with
us about how much we were worth when we were kids,
for example, ‘your sister does better than you’, or us not
feeling that our parents loved us or wanted to spend
time with us.
And underlying them all, is that we don’t have a stable
idea of who we are at the deepest level.
8. This makes us feel....
Angry
Lost
Frustrated
Depressed
Ashamed
Guilty
Stressed
Isolated
Anxious
Hurt
9. And we’ll have negative thoughts
like...
There’s something wrong with me
I’m so stupid
I’m worthless
I’m a failure
They all hate me
They’re so much better than me
I should be much more _____, or I should be less ____
I am not good at anything
I’ll never be successful
10. This might make us:
Try to please other people all the time
Get defensive when we feel criticized
Either underachieve, because it doesn’t seem worth the
effort
Or work harder to achieve really well to gain other
people’s approval
Avoid certain people and situations
Neglect our emotional needs
Abuse ourselves
11. Some people used to have good self
esteem... then lose it.
So how do we lose our self esteem? Think about this. What
are the labels we give ourselves that help us feel good?
Successful, or defining ourselves by our job
Good-looking
Rich
A good parent
A religious person
Intelligent
What labels do you give yourself to make yourself feel
good?
12. But what happens when our life
circumstances change, and these labels
fall apart?
What then?
Who are we?
13. The key to instant self esteem is to realize that we’re much
more than a list of qualities.
Our worth is based on much more than:
Are we successful or unsuccessful?
Are we rich or broke?
Are we pretty or ugly?
So… what is it based on?
17. Now think about it. This baby hasn’t done anything to earn
that love or acceptance.
It hasn’t achieved anything.
It isn’t successful.
It isn’t rich.
It doesn’t know much about anything.
And yet, it still deserves love.
18. This is where we
see the sanctity of
human life. Where
we see how
precious it really is.
Where we look at
those tiny little
fingers and toes
and marvel at the
miracle life is.
Precious, special,
deserving of love
and affection.
19. But over time, this magic wears off. The baby becomes a child,
and demands are placed upon him or her – to achieve, to be this,
to be that.
That unconditional love and acceptance they once felt are gone, and
now they feel they have to be a certain way or live up to a certain
standard to be loved.
21. And it happens to all of us. We go through our lives, never
quite being able to match up. Always comparing ourselves
to others. Worrying if deep down we’re not worth all that
much.
And it makes us miserable.
22. But we can turn this around...
…by getting in touch with that part of ourselves, that part we
had when we were babies, was WORTHY of love without
having to BE anything, DO anything, or PROVE anything.
All we had to do was exist.
23. You do NOT have to wait to value yourself until you achieve
something great, or you finally get that promotion, or any other
time or achievement or milestone.
The time to value yourself is… RIGHT NOW!
And that’s what I
want to tell you
right now...
24. All you need to do to win your own
approval, love and affection is…
to exist!
And you’re doing that, every single moment of every
single day.
Our lives are so much more precious than these labels
we stick on them, or comparing ourselves to other
people and seeing how we match up. We’re worth so
much more!
25. Here are some messages about your
essential worth I want to share with you.
Take some time to read them
and let them sink in…
32. Even though other people may not see
your value, you must choose to see your
own inherent value.
33. You do not become worthy of love and
approval by achieving – you are already
worthy of love and approval, just for
being you.
34. Don’t chase after approval from other
people. You’re worth so much more than
that.
35. So how can we put this into
action in our life?
36. Affirmations
Our own self-critical thoughts can cause our self esteem to
stay low, because we keep thinking in the old destructive
patterns that pull us down.
But there’s good news!
Daily affirmations help you reprogram your belief system,
from judging yourself based on labels, to valuing the core of
yourself.
37. Examples of powerful affirmations include:
I have the power to make positive changes in my life.
I do not have to be perfect to be worthy of my own love and
approval.
Life can be full of ups and downs, but I’m strong enough to
meet any challenge.
I’ve included a free printable worksheet to help you put this
into action. Click Affirmations below this presentation to
download.
38. Gratitude
The practice of gratitude truly has transformed the way I
look at my life. It helped me to look for the positive
things, and to get out of the negative mind lock low self
esteem had me caught in.
I know it can do the same for you.
I’ve made a free printable worksheet to help you inject
gratitude into your life. Click Gratitude below this
presentation to get your free copy.
39. Goal Setting
When I had low self esteem I was going through life passively,
being pushed around by life. I knew I needed to get active,
but I didn’t know how.
That was until I discovered goal setting. Setting goals for your
life helps you get active. By stepping out and actively
planning the life you want helps you pump up your personal
power and step into your natural greatness.
To get started on your own goal setting, click Goal Setting
below.
40. Let’s do this together!
Low self esteem is a monster many of us have to face, but
remember, there’s nothing wrong with you, despite what your
thoughts might say! Low self esteem is not really about who
we are, it is just about the thought processes that pull us
down.
When you’re
going through low
self esteem, it can
feel like you’re
alone and
isolated, but that’s
just not true.
41. And thankfully, through gratitude, goal setting, and
affirmations, we can flip the script and build our own self
esteem from the ground up.
I’m so glad we’re on this journey together. Let’s do this!
Love,
