This year, I’ve changed a lot – in my life and myself. I moved from Hamburg to Aachen (about 500 km), leaving behind my family and friends, started working at a different company and changed my day-to-day work tasks. I also changed my hobbies, by the way becoming a bit more self-confident. Was it hard? The moving part, yes. The rest: not at all. Why? I did everything I could to make this transition as easy as possible. Everything in my head was prepared for change.
In our IT world, change is natural. We change from one version to another, we change frameworks, software and hosting partners. But what about ourselves? Yes, of course, we change, too. Slowly with time, whether we realise it or not. Sometimes more profound changes happen to us that require us to adjust ourselves to, for example, a new task in our company, a new job, a new city.
Change is stressful, but you are in control and able to influence whether it is the good kind of stressful or the bad, exhausting kind.
Since change sometimes comes rather suddenly, we all need to be ready for it. Therefore, these slides present a few tips and tricks that have helped me in the past, whether the challenge was to change jobs, tasks at work, place of residence or social circle.
These slides where used during a presentation at MageTitans (http://www.magetitans.it/synopsis/#sonja). A video will soon be available.
22. Sources
• Image – Evolution of mobile phones
https://educationstormfront.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/phone-evolution.png
• Image – Wedding (Disney‘s Up)
http://giphy.com/gifs/disney-up-pixar-disney-10wwy1cJ8j2aD6
• Image – You‘re Fired (Back to the Future II)
http://giphy.com/gifs/work-fired-youre-39oZZ4lmn51Sw
• Image – Oscar Wilde
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/01/03/oscar-wilde-s-american-tour.html
• Icons – means of communication
http://www.elegantthemes.com (Creative Commons BY 3.0)
Editor's Notes
Name Sonja
Thanks to Alessandro and Fabian
Non-tech talk
Change
Marketing Manager @ integer_net
Magento Agency in Germany
Big fan of Ecommerce
Have become a fan of change
why - good to be prepare
How - easy as possible
What - benefits?
Evolution
Adapting, Development of yourself
Magento 2
- Retrospect
German Employees in IT change jobs every 4 years
(http://www.presseportal.de/pm/38447/2693619)
Goodbye autopilot
Goodbye habits
Learned behaviour
Concious thinking / decision making process
Small changes
Big changes
Voluntary changes
Unvoluntary changes
Be prepared -> easier -> less effort
pretty clean desk
or at least clean desktop on your laptop
Individual files sorted in folders, all properly aligned
Well,
change = messy
turns routines up side down.
Even if you try to remain some order, change means chaos.
good boxes are not see-through…
Accept mess during the actual period of change
Don‘t be sad or angry, it‘s normal
more chaotic than usual.
new routines, it gets better.
Life challenges you. It hands you lemons. It‘s up to you, if these are just lemons to you or if you want to turn them into lemonade (or maybe ask for Tequila and salt?)
Lower body 10 days before moving from Hamburg to Aachen (500 km)
prone to Murphy‘s Law.
Accidents, mishaps, bad luck, errors, mistakes
Stress
May pull you down.
Don‘t let it.
As long as it doesn‘t kill you, .-> stronger.
Quote: Learn to Walk as adults, we end up in wheelchair.
Push through it. Try again. Don‘t give up.
Yes, life will hand you even more lemons.
sofa doesn‘t fit through new flat‘s door.
4 hours until i had to drive back 500 km and return the car
Fantasized about chain saw
Here‘s what you can do:
A: Be desperate. Sit in a quiet corner of your empty flat and cry.
B: Go into Rage mode. Kick that damn sofa. -> painful, not recommended for injured people ;)
C: Get to work. Get your tools and cutters and start to take that giant sofa apart.
I‘ve learned that C works best.
coincidence, - busy taking my sofa apart – new neighbour walked up stairs – realized the problem i was facing – offered his help.
Chat – met nice neighbour – actually rather pleasant
Which brings next point
Quote Legend of Zelda.
You are not alone.
Planet Earth home to more than 7 billion
someone out there - going through the same change that you do – find them online or offline
Nothing to be ashamed of
Think of the great people of our time:
Batman has got Robin and Alfred. Superman and Wonder Woman fight together. Even Signor Rossi has Gastone to help him.
Team up!
Find people in a similiar situation like you, a peer group
share troubles
Find people who can help you, a mentor
Learn from them
No longer in high school. Mostly no bullies.
People feel appreciated if someone asks for their help
Be nice! Be thankful!
You‘ll be fine
Made friends i wouldn‘t want to miss
Return the favour!
Why ?
How come I like change when it‘s actually a dangerous, messy process, that can sometimes bring you to the edge of reason?
How did I get here?
not staying in my student flat, reading Oscar Wilde‘s books.
It takes effort.
It‘s rewarding.
Happier.
self confident.
open to adventures.
outgoing.
Each step taught me a lot about myself.
New experiences, mastering new challenges (big and small) = made me grow up.
Barney Stinson (How I Met Your Mother)
A magic dwells in each beginning
2nd day at new job,
my current colleagues
Did I enjoy working with my former colleagues? Yes!
Thankful
Answered all silly questions.
Best compliment ever „You‘ve learned a lot in those last weeks“
Do I enjoy working with my new colleagues? Yes!
Sometimes it‘s just like at my old job. Sometimes it‘s different.
it‘s all fairy dust and rainbows
it feels more like standing in the rain, - without an umbrella.
They put in effort - make settling in easier for me
People who appreciate the changes i go through
Downsides? Always! In my case: Miss my friends and family.
Made new friends,
two and a half years in Magento community
Welcomed me from day 1
Back in 2013, magento meetup – organiser
2 months into Magento world,
Wanted to hide from people
Unfortunately, socially not acceptable
Plus not good if that‘s your job
Now? like to meet new people.
Humans are fascinating. Brains. Maybe a tiny glass of sparkling drinks might help aswell.
Unvoluntary changes
People help - if they know your plans (new job, place to live, sports group,…?)
So => Talk!
Be someone you‘d like to spend time with. Listen and ask questions.
Find peer or mentor
worst that could happen?
Death might be a high risk. Otherwise, quote again: what doesn‘t kill you…
During change: Make yourself at home
For example - Unpack those boxes
Bring your favourite coffee mug to your new job
Half-hearted attempts take a lot of energy and thinking,
Comparing => takes a lot of energy.
Better: Set a time frame.
Evaluate it in 6 / 12 / 36 months time
A safety net is ok
Seriously, get settled in!
Meet the locals / colleagues / family and friends of your new partner (sports group, pub, cooking class, …)
Establish new routines that feel comfortable to you
Make yourself happy.