The Art of Self-Coaching is a course that I designed and launched at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (GSB) in Spring 2015, and in Spring 2020 I'm teaching it again for the 13th time (although for the very first time online.) In response to COVID-19, the GSB has moved all Spring Quarter classes online, and in an effort to make a small contribution of my own to help people cope with the pandemic, I'm offering this publicly available online version of the course: https://www.edbatista.com/the-art-of-self-coaching-public-course.html

1. The art of
self-coaching
Ed Batista
Class 8: SUCCESS
Public Course
Spring 2020
“Success Kid” photograph © Laney Griner, used with permission [link]

2. Best practices

3. Best practices
Submit questions via Q&A during my remarks
“Side-by-Side Mode” for optimal layout
Email: selfcoachingcourse@gmail.com
I’ll read everything

4. Partner
conversations

5. Partner
Will need to interact real-time during class
(In-person, phone, a separate video call)
Experiment with the coaching process
Watch the timer to stay on track
conversations

6. Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]
Remarks, part 1 15 mins
Conversation & debrief 25 mins
Remarks, part 2 10 mins
Conversation & debrief 25 mins
For next time… 5 mins
Agenda

7. Warm-up

8. Warm-up
Class Prep, Part 1
Looking back over the past 2 months, what’s
one success I take pride in?
Looking ahead post-COVID, what’s one thing
I’ll do differently because of what I’ve learned?

9. One success I take pride in.
One thing I’ll do differently.
Warm-up

10. One success I take pride in.
One thing I’ll do differently.
Minutes remaining:
Warm-up
4 3 16

11. One success I take pride in.
One thing I’ll do differently.
Minutes remaining:
Warm-up
4 3 1

12. One success I take pride in.
One thing I’ll do differently.
Minutes remaining:
Warm-up
3 1

13. One success I take pride in.
One thing I’ll do differently.
Minutes remaining:
Warm-up
1

14. Today’s guiding
spirit

15. Today’s guiding
spirit
Values
Strengths
Working Conditions

16. More happiness
Image by Public Domain Review [link]
myths…

17. I’ll be happy
Image by Public Domain Review [link]
when…

18. I’ll be happy
Sonja Lyubomirsky
Why doesn’t success make us happier?
when…

19. Features that act
like bugs
Photo by Steve Bremer [link]

20. Features that act
Competition
Social comparison
Hedonic adaptation
Beneficial for the species
Problematic for us as individuals
like bugs

21. Competition aka
© Getty Images

22. Goal pursuit
© Getty Images

23. Goal pursuit
Source: http://bit.ly/GoalPursuit

24. Goal pursuit
The critical factor in whether goal pursuit
makes us happy lies in enjoying the journey &
not in realizing the end-goal.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

25. Goal pursuit
But when do we prioritize the journey?
And is now too soon?

26. Social
Photo by debarshiray [link]
comparison

27. Social
Those of us who typically rely on our own
internal, objective standards are happiest.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison

28. Social
Those of us who base our self-evaluations on
comparisons with others are the unhappy ones.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison

29. Social
Why might this get more difficult?
comparison

30. Hedonic treadmill
Photo by E’Lisa Campbell [link]

31. Hedonic treadmill
The more we attain, the happier we become.
But the more we attain, the more we want.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

32. Hedonic treadmill
Two chief explanations: We experience less &
less pleasure over time & our aspirations rise.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

33. Hedonic treadmill
Are ambitious people doomed?
How do we avoid settling?

34. So what
can we do?

35. Aspiration
Concrete experiences & observations
Gratitude & appreciation
Goal selection & framing
Values
management

36. Values
To work in an organization whose value
system is incompatible with one’s own
condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker

37. A value system
Photo by Jack [link]

38. A value system
Values as in “What is right?”
Ethical guidelines

39. A value system

40. A value system
Values as in “What is rewarded?”
Power & influence
Material wealth

41. A value system
Photo by Abdul Rahman [link]

42. A value system
Values as in “What is meaningful?”
Highly subjective

43. A value system
To work in an organization whose value
system is incompatible with one’s own
condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker

44. A conversation
Photo by gop32000 [link]

45. Class Prep, Part 2
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
A conversation

46. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
16 12 8 4 210

47. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
12 8 4 210

48. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 210

49. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 2

50. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
4 2

51. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What am I learning about my values?
How do they influence my aspirations?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
2

52. Your questions
Photo by Véronique Debord-Lazaro [link]

53. Strengths
Photo by Jamie Jamieson [link]

54. Strengths
It takes far more energy and work to improve
from incompetence to mediocrity than it
takes to improve from first-rate performance
to excellence.
~Peter Drucker

55. A transition
Photo by McKay Savage [link]

56. Growth mindset?
Change is always possible…
What’s the opportunity cost?

57. Conditions

58. Conditions
For knowledge workers, How do I perform?
may be an even more important question than
What are my strengths?
~Peter Drucker

59. Conditions
Scale
Culture
Environment
Interdependence

60. Photo by JD Hancock [link]
Scale

61. Photo by Carleton Thomas Anderson [link]
Culture

62. Environment

63. Photo by Christopher Schmidt [link]
Interdependence

64. Photo by Don-Pixel [link]
A conversation

65. Class Prep, Part 3
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
A conversation

66. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
16 12 8 4 210

67. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
12 8 4 210

68. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 210

69. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 2

70. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
4 2

71. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What are my greatest strengths?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
2

72. Thank your
partner
Photo by Singapore 2010 Youth Olympics [link]

73. Your questions
Photo by Véronique Debord-Lazaro [link]

74. To sum up
Photo by Pranav Yaddanapudi [link]

75. To sum up
Success may entail focusing on strengths
Managing aspirations will be key
Clarity on values is essential

76. For next time…
Photo by Marco Ghitti [link]

77. Endings
Photo by Striatic [link]

78. Endings
William Bridges on transitions
Christopher Peterson on life & habits
& some feedback…

79. Photo by dotmatchbox [link]
Feedback

80. Feedback
For your partner
The worksheet is a suggestion
Use whatever format works best for you

81. Photo by Basti Hirsch [link]
More feedback

82. More feedback
For me
Survey link on website
Help improve the course
Help me be a better teacher

83. Thank you!
Video and slides posted on my site