The Art of Self-Coaching is a course that I designed and launched at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (GSB) in Spring 2015, and in Spring 2020 I'm teaching it again for the 13th time (although for the very first time online.) In response to COVID-19, the GSB has moved all Spring Quarter classes online, and in an effort to make a small contribution of my own to help people cope with the pandemic, I'm offering this publicly available online version of the course: https://www.edbatista.com/the-art-of-self-coaching-public-course.html

1. The art of
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self-coaching
Ed Batista
CLASS 9: ENDINGS
Public Course
Spring 2020

2. Best practices

3. Best practices
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Email: selfcoachingcourse@gmail.com
I’ll read everything

4. Partner
conversations

5. Partner
Will need to interact real-time during class
(In-person, phone, a separate video call)
Experiment with the coaching process
Watch the timer to stay on track
conversations

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Intro & conversation 25 mins
Debrief & remarks 15 mins
Final conversation 15 mins
Debrief & remarks 20 mins
Closing the class 15 mins
Agenda

7. No algorithms
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8. No universally applicable laws
Human behavior is far too complex
You’re not the “average person in the sample”
No algorithms

9. Only heuristics
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10. The answer? It depends
But we can draw upon research
(Be a better consumer of social science)
Self-awareness is the necessary first step
Only heuristics

11. Putting it all
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together

12. A conversation
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13. Class Prep, Part 1
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
A conversation

14. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
16 12 8 4 210

15. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
12 8 4 210

16. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 210

17. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
8 4 2

18. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
4 2

19. Coach your partner, 8 minutes per person
What does self-coaching mean to me?
What will it look like in practice for me?
Minutes remaining:
A conversation
2

20. Your questions
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21. Endings

22. Everything ends badly; otherwise it wouldn’t end.
~Cocktail

23. Endings
Endings tend to evoke sadness & loss
Because endings are symbolic deaths
So every ending is a learning opportunity

24. The end of a melody is not its goal.
But nonetheless, had the melody
not reached its end it would not
have reached its goal either.
~Human, All Too Human

25. Transitions
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26. Transitions
Change is situational. Transition is psychological.
Transitions start with letting go of what no longer
fits the life stage you are in.
~William Bridges

27. Transitions
To become something else, you have to stop
being what you are now… Even though it
sounds backwards, endings always come first.
~William Bridges

28. Transitions
The process of transformation is essentially a
death and rebirth process rather than one of
mechanical modification.
~William Bridges

29. Just a change?
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30. Or a transition?
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31. Or a transition?
What is ending for you?
What are you letting go of?
What is dying? What is being born?

32. Thanking your
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partner

33. Class Prep, Part 2
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
One final
conversation

34. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
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conversation

35. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
10 6 4 28
conversation

36. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
6 4 28
conversation

37. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
6 4 2
conversation

38. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
4 2
conversation

39. 6 minutes per person
What would you like to say to this person?
How might you express your appreciation?
Minutes remaining:
One final
2
conversation

40. Your questions
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41. Closing remarks
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42. Good education…
…is like a depth charge.
It goes off some time later as it sinks in.

43. Learning how to
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learn

44. Growth

45. Growth
Exhortation will not suffice to change anyone.
What is needed is a concrete strategy of
behavior change.
~Christopher Peterson

46. Habits
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47. Habits
Could the young but realize how soon they will
become mere walking bundles of habits, they
would give more heed to their conduct while in
the plastic state.
~William James

48. Practice
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49. Practice
Every uncomfortable experience we avoid
is a missed opportunity to prepare for
the times when we have no choice.

50. Moments
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51. The good life
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52. The good life
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Everyday life poses demands & I am not saying
that we should ignore those we do not like.
I am saying don’t sweat the small stuff & most
of it is small stuff.
~Christopher Peterson

53. Gratitude
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54. Gratitude
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55. Gratitude
Soon you will be nobody and nowhere,
nor will anything you now behold exist,
nor anyone who is now alive.
~Marcus Aurelius

56. Gratitude

57. One last exercise
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58. Thank you!
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