This is a condensed slide deck from the sixth class of my Fall 2017 section of The Art of Self-Coaching at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.

1. The art of
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self-coaching
Ed Batista
Class 6:
RESILIENCE
Fall 2017

2. Resilience
Broader than Davidson
Karen Reivich & Andrew Shatté
Ability to persevere & adapt when things go awry

3. Resilience

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Small groups 35 mins
Resilience 25 mins
Stress 10 mins
A conversation 20 mins
For next time… 5 mins
Agenda

5. Power
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6. Power
“Power pose” research has replication issues
Many open questions, but not groundless
Note the importance of physiology
How we feel (physically) 
How we feel (emotionally)

7. Resilience
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elements

8. Resilience
Karen Reivich & Andrew Shatté
What constitutes resilience?
What is resilient behavior?
elements

9. Resilience
Emotion regulation
Impulse control
Optimism
Causal analysis
elements
Empathy
Self-efficacy
Reaching out

10. How were these
Emotion regulation
Impulse control
Optimism
Causal analysis
present just now?
Empathy
Self-efficacy
Reaching out

11. Crucible stories
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12. Crucible stories
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Build connections
Surface mental models
How we make meaning of experience
Opportunities to manifest resilient behavior

13. Not a solitary
experience
Relationships are key
Have others bear witness
Requires practice & a culture

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RQ assessment

15. As always…
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16. As always…
“A map is not the territory it represents.”
~Alford Korzybski

17. RQ assessment
What are these results?
NOT aptitude or proficiency
Frequency of use & comfort level

18. RQ assessment
Awareness may begin to shift behavior
(As with a growth vs. fixed mindset)

19. What can we do?
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20. What can we do?
Lower the waterline
Act in the moment
Build capacity

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Lower the
waterline

22. Lower the
waterline
Continually expand our self-awareness
What are my tendencies under stress?
What new behaviors could I try?

23. Lower the
waterline
A key question in this course:
How will I do this in the future?
Assessments, feedback, coaching, journaling

24. Act in the
moment
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25. Act in the
Reframing
Self-soothing
Talking about feelings
moment

26. Remember me?
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27. Reframing
The meanings we assign  Emotional response
Re-interpret a situation  Shift our emotions

28. Reframing
Concepts in Reivich & Shatté from CBT
Avoiding thinking traps
Challenging beliefs
Detecting icebergs
Learning ABCs

29. Thinking traps
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30. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize (or externalize)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.

31. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision  Big picture
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize (or externalize)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.

32. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize  Narrow focus
Jump to conclusions
Personalize (or externalize)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.

33. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions  Slow down
Personalize (or externalize)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.

34. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize (or externalize)  Look out (or in)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.

35. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize (or externalize)
Magnify neg. & minimize pos.  Balance

36. Icebergs
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37. Icebergs
Assumptions & beliefs in 3 key areas
Achievement
Acceptance
Control
Strong emotions when challenged

38. Icebergs
What are my assumptions & beliefs regarding…
Achievement?
Acceptance?
Control?
What practices help me address these questions?

39. ABCs
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40. ABCs
Adversity  Consequences*
*Emotional & behavioral response

41. ABCs
Adversity  Beliefs*  Consequences
*Mental models about self & the world

42. ABCs
Adversity  Beliefs  Consequences
What beliefs do I hold about myself?
What beliefs do I hold about adversity?
What beliefs do I hold about the situation?
What practices help me address these questions?

43. Reframing
All variations on the same theme
Identify, explore & challenge mental models

44. Mental models
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45. Mental models
Our perceptions shape reality
How we define experiences
How we see ourselves

46. Single-loop
learning
Assumptions
& Beliefs
Results
Strategies
& Goals

47. Double-loop
Results
learning
Assumptions
& Beliefs
Strategies
& Goals

48. Resilience & its
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absence

49. Resilience & its
Linda Graham
Why might we lack resilience?
Why might these behaviors be difficult for us?
absence

50. Resilience & its
Childhood & insecure attachment
Conditioned habits
Implicit memories
Negativity bias
Trauma
absence

51. Resilience & its
Sub-optimal conditioning is the human condition.
Must that be a permanent problem? No.
~Linda Graham
absence

52. Resilience & its
Childhood & life experiences matter…
…and change is eminently possible
Neuroplasticity is key
absence

53. Mindfulness
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54. Mindfulness
OK
We got it
We’ll meditate
What else can we do?

55. Build capacity
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56. Remember me?
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57. Get MESSy
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58. Get MESSy
Mindfulness
Exercise
Sleep hygiene
Stress reduction

59. Get MESSy
Stress

60. Emotion
Not rocket science
Hard to do under stress
Get MESSy to build capacity
management

61. Stress
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62. Stress
Brad Stulberg & Steve Magness
How does stress contribute to growth?

63. Productivity
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64. Productivity
Alternating periods of intense focus & rest
Note the importance of attention management

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Mindset

66. Mindset
Growth mindset 
Struggle builds skills
Setbacks & failures are learning experiences

67. Another view
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of stress

68. A threat or
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a challenge?

69. A threat or
a challenge?
Kelly McGonigal & Alia Crum, Stanford
How we think about stress 
How we respond to stress
(Yet again: reframing)

70. Remember?
Emotional Arousal
Performance
Eustress Distress
(Not literally a bell curve)

71. How to reframe
Performance
Emotional Arousal
DistressEustress
stress?

72. Meta-emotion
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73. Meta-emotion
An emotion arising in response to an emotion
How we feel about how we feel
How do we feel about stress?

74. To sum up
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Resilience is dynamic & multi-dimensional
Focus on strengths & try new behaviors
Reframing & mental models are key

75. For next time…
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76. Vulnerability
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77. Vulnerability
Read Brené Brown & my post (2 videos)
TEDx on Vulnerability (20 mins)
Shame & Empathy (8 mins)

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Two exercises…

79. Another story…
Experiences that involve feelings of vulnerability
Embarrassment, remorse, guilt, shame
Use the sheet to identify 5 stories
You’ll choose which one to tell
4 minutes to tell it

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Meta-Emotions
Worksheet

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Meta-Emotions
Complete AFTER doing the readings
Worksheet

82. Looking ahead…
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83. Looking ahead…
Vulnerability, Unhappiness, Success
Less normative, more subjective
Less research, more application

84. Other items…
Slides will be posted on my site
Weekly assignment due Tuesday 9pm
1:1 meetings today in B206 (the usual room)