Grief & Bereavement presentation at Akron Children's Hospital, October 2011. Very good slides of a parent speaker, who shared unhelpful comments and some helpful interventions dealing with the grief of losing a child.
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Grief & bereavement presentation parent slides
1. Not Helpful/Hurtful Comments
He’s in a better place & happy
God needed an angel
Was he your only child? -- This offended me at first
but now I know what they meant, I am thankful
that I have other children to focus on, BUT it does
not ease the burden of my loss
At least you had him for 15 years….REALLY???
Looks like you are doing ok and back to
normal….REALLY???
2. Difficult Situations
His friend’s birthdays
Looking where he should be sitting at in church
Taking my other kids to trips he would have been on
Having dinner at our table with a missing plate
All holidays…
Not wanting to “offend” or make people feel uneasy by
mentioning his name, but also not wanting people to
forget
As this year approaches and all his friends are getting
their senior pictures done; Knowing I won’t get to do
that and will have to endure parties that he won’t be at
3. Helpful Interventions
Music…Mitchell loved music, and I find myself
comforted by uplifting, spiritual music that lets me
know all is o.k.
Butterflies: Mitchell’s last year at middle school we
went on a field trip and he said if he was reincarnated
(and we did not know he was sick) he would come
back as a butterfly….
Just speaking to him whether it be in my car, at
home, church I don’t feel I have to be at the grave sight
to speak to him- in fact that makes it more difficult
4. Helpful Interventions
Mitchell’s friends remembering and not being
afraid to talk to me
The parent support group
Spiritual belief: At first I blamed God, then myself,
now I understand that God does what is best for
that person, not what YOU think he should do for
YOU- It was MITCH we ask God to do what was
best for, not us…