Narcissistic Personality Disorder is an insidious and destructive personality disorder that creates chaos for individuals, families, workplaces, schools, and communities. It often lies at the heart of bullying, yet it is often not recognised or managed properly. Victims of Narcissistic Personality Disorder have gone through cycles of relationship abuse and need to understand what has happened to them. This powerpoint is a start to education, understanding and empowerment. Please share with anyone you feel may benefit from viewing this powerpoint.

1. By Jeni Mawter

2. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome
is not a medically
recognized syndrome…

4. Often, you don’t
realize you are a
victim …

5. spouse
children
parent
sibling
friend
colleague
peer
partner

6. Can you
spot the person
with a
Narcissistic
Personality
Disorder (NPD)?

7. Because the NPD
goes undetected in
the home, school,
work-place,
organizations, and
social settings your
plight is not
recognized.
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8. People with NPD have an inflated sense of
self-importance, see themselves as
perfect and will attack anyone who tries
to put a chink in that "flawless" image.
They exhibit grandiose, self-centered,
egotistical patterns of behavior that can
cause a lot of psychological trauma to
those around them.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5508911_heal-narcissistic-abuse.html

9. They require constant attention and
admiration and often use others selfishly for
their own ends. When criticized, they react
with blaming, insults and put downs, causing
the subjects of their rage to feel
rejected, hurt, humiliated and powerless.
They also distort reality, often contradicting
themselves, lying or denying events of the
past to make themselves look better. They
make us doubt what we know and wonder
whether we're the crazy ones.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5508911_heal-narcissistic-abuse.html

11. Abuse is a pattern
of behaviour
used to establish
power and control
over another
person.
http://www.lsh.me/What-is-Domestic-violence-.html

12. Victims often display a set, or
cluster, of symptoms due to:
physical
mental
emotional
spiritual
sexual

13. http://www.accpc.ca/rtr-resources-cd-emo_abuse.htm

15. http://fatalparade.deviantart.com/art/Caught-in-
a-Web-49655807

16. Victims
need
help

17. Victims
need
help
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18. When you know
something
feels wrong …

19. Narcissistic
Personality
Disorder
abuse
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20. Yet victims
don’t know …
www.abc.net.au

21. http://www.mobygames.com/game/windows/lone-survivor/screenshots/gameShotId,555880/

26. Narcissistic supply
comes from public
attention such as
fame, celebrity,
notoriety, or infamy or
private attention such
as admiration, flattery,
acclaim, fear, or even
repulsion. http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m23uoznilI1r7dpi1o1
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27. Anything that acts as a
status symbol that
attracts attention and
admiration for the
narcissist is narcissistic
supply, for example, a
flashy car, expensive
property, designer
clothes, being a
member of a church,
cult, club, or a
business.
http://clentonfarquharson.co.uk/2011/07/

30. NPDs believe they are
superior and entitled.
They are envious and
exploitative, controllin
g and manipulating
others without
empathy, guilt or
remorse.
www.meaningfulmama.com

31. http://familialramblings.com/excuses/
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32. As a child, a healthy self-
esteem (true self) did not
develop in the Narcissistic
Personality Disordered so
they built up defences to
create a ‘false self’ in
public.
This is akin to wearing a
public mask.
http://baconstrip.deviantart.com/art/dr-jekyll-and-mr-hyde-
10308371

33. http://www.wattpad.com/15066665-backstabbing-best-friend#.Ufn1QhYzmlI

34. Wearing the mask is not
only emotionally
exhausting, it also means
that the NPD is
constantly on guard at
being found out.
They become overly
sensitive to narcissistic
injury which is any
perceived threat (real or
imagined) to the NPD’s
self-esteem or self-
worth.
http://philsphil.wordpress.com/tag/narcissistic-rage/

42. - Narcissistic abuse is insidious because the abuse is
covert, cunning and indirect.
- Narcissists go to great pains to avoid being
observed publicly as being abusive.
- The Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde behaviour creates fear,
distress, confusion, inner turmoil, and chaos for the
victim.
- The constant ‘walking on eggshells’ and attempting
to avoid further conflict can be crippling.

43. Victims are constantly being tested

44. NPDs are constantly pretending.
It is impossible to know what is false and what is real.

45. For a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
‘Love’ is false

46. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
do not accept responsibility for themselves.
As such, they can’t apologize.

47. They justify cruelty as ‘honesty’

48. For whatever the reason
you entered the Dance of
the Narcissist (a behaviour
known as Codependency)
so that in the dance there
was:
1) a pleaser/fixer
(victim);
2) a taker/controller
(narcissist/addict);
3) and an enabler
(supporter).
www.writemybrainsout.wordpress.com

49. In Narcissistic Victim Syndrome you are
looking for a cluster of symptoms to
emerge, many are the symptoms of trauma:
avoidance behaviour, loss of interest, feeling
detached, sense of a limited future, sleeping
or eating difficulties, irritability, hyper-
vigilance, easily
startled, flashbacks, hopelessness, psychoso
matic illnesses, self-harming, thoughts of
suicide etc.

50. NPD abuse victims
express feelings of
humiliation and
shame, and apt to self-
blame.
You have learned to
take responsibility for
the narcissist’s
behaviour because you
are constantly told the
problem is your fault. www.great-terriblebeauty.tumblr.com

51. Some victims
develop Stockholm
Syndrome and want
to support, defend,
and love the abuser
despite what they
have gone through.
www.theibanker.com

52. Victims may ‘dissociate’ or
detach from their emotions,
body, or surroundings.
Living in a war zone where
all forms of power and
control are used against you
(intimidation; emotional,
physical and mental abuse;
isolation, economic abuse,
sexual abuse, coercion,
control etc), the threat of
abuse is always present.
Dissociation is an automatic
coping mechanism against
overwhelming stress.

53. Victims are often
victimized by more than
one person.
They often internalize
that something is wrong
with them, that they
deserve this kind of
abuse, and then resign
themselves to their fate.

54. Victims of narcissistic abuse often appear
uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking
clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or
misheard something.
Confidence may be so low that they have trouble
making simple decisions.
They will not be aware that this is caused by an
abusive technique called ‘gaslighting’.

55. Gaslighting is a technique of
psychological abuse used by NPDs
to instil confusion and anxiety in
their victim to the point where
they no longer trust their own
memory, perception or
judgment.
With gaslighting, the victim
initially notices that something
happens that is odd, but they
don’t believe it. This moves to
defence as the victim fights
against the manipulation.

56. Confusion sets in after
incessant comments
such as: ‘You’re too
sensitive’, ‘You’re
crazy’, ‘You’re
imagining things’ or ‘I
never said that.’
Gradually, the victim
cannot trust their own
perceptions and doubt
themselves. This often
leads to depression.
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57. Broken and unable to
trust themselves, they
isolate themselves
further.
The victim now doubts
everything about
themselves, their
thoughts and opinions,
their ideas and ideals.
They become co-
dependent on the
abuser for their reality.
http://fullofbeautifullybrokenthings.wordpress.com/tag/i
solation/

59. You feel you
deserve it
You get
used to the abuse

60. You hope
things will change.
You’re tired.

64. - Victims need validation and
education about what has
happened to them.
- They need information about
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
and its toxicity in relationships.
- They need education about how
they have contributed to their
situation through co-dependence.
- They need therapy to deal with
symptoms.

65. Appropriate support in:
1)Education – schools
2)Legal – law courts
3)Medical – health
practitioners
4)Business – workplace
5)Religion -
6)Family - members

66. One of their greatest
challenges may come from not
being believed by significant
others, either because these
others have not seen the
private face of the narcissist
or because they themselves
are in the narcissist’s thrall.
http://www.datpiff.com/Markey-Mcfly-No-One-Believes-Me-mixtape.300713.html

67. Another challenge is
denial. A victims
can’t see that the
NDP aspects of their
life is all wrong.
Victims don’t want
to face the fact that
someone they have
a relationship with,
is an enemy.
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68. http://vidablogg.files.wordpress.com/2013/02/wpid-531-have-you-ever-been-hurt2.jpg

69. http://kootation.com

70. www.uscpublicdiplomacy.org

71. www.shinystarlight.tumblr.com

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