Importance of Vulnerability and Storytelling. Talking about our earliest experience of difference, what they felt like, and how adults in our lives helped us or not. Taking the lessons learned to apply to how we support our children.
Philosophy of Education and Educational Philosophy
Caedmon School Earliest Experience of Difference
1. The Caedmon School
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Seattle Girls’ School
Our Earliest Experience of Difference
And the Lessons We Can Apply to Our Children
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2. Agenda
Getting to Know You
Story Telling
What We Wished from Our Adults
Going Forward
Questions and Answers
Resources
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3. In Our Conversations…
Listen to Understand
Tell Your Truth
Assume Positive Intent
Seek Bravery Over Safety
Practice Empathy
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4. Getting to Know You
Warm-Up Questions
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Do you have any guilty
pleasures?
Do you have a strange non-
negotiable?
Do you have an unusual
phobia?
What is your “showing up
naked to school” dream?
5. Earliest Memory of Difference
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Think about a time from your
childhood when you learned
something about identity,
difference or justice.
What happened?
What did you think, and how
did you feel?
Looking back, what do you
wish the caring adults around
you had done or said?
6. Being That Adult for Children
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What are the conversations you want to have that
you’re not having?
What are the conversations you want to have better?
Race/Ethnicity
Socioeconomic Class
Gender and Sexuality
Religion
Others?
8. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease
9. Before You Talk
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Study up on other parents having
conversations
Use people, outings, media, etc.
Identify and clarify where you stand
Initial verbiage
Brainstorm follow-up questions
Practice with others
10. While You Are Talking
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Find out what they’re actually asking/saying
Find out why they’re asking/saying
Respond straightforwardly
Be mindful of emotion
Be explicit about where you stand
Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
“Great question” “What do you think?”
“You’re thinking about that, huh?” and “Let
me think about it some more”
11. After You Talk
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Go back to earlier
Double-check their understanding
Re-establish and clarify if needed
Reconciling disagreements and other
messages
Follow-up with alternate message givers
12. Example Statements
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“Boys are annoying!”
“Why is she a different color than me?”
Her lunch smelled real bad.
“Why doesn’t he have a daddy?’
How come we don’t go away on vacations
like everyone else?
“How come no one looks like me?”
“Why does he talk so funny?”
Her house was so small.
14. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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