Folk wisdom tells us young children don't notice differences or have any biases, yet research is telling us otherwise. What are age appropriate ways to develop intentionally inclusive and identity conscious children?
1. The Caedmon School
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Seattle Girls’ School
Talking to Kids
About Identity, Difference, and Justice
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3. Agenda
Developmental Timeline
Before You Talk
While You Are Talking
After You Talk
Questions and Answers
Resources
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4. Introductions
Warm-Up Questions
Please introduce yourself, your child, and your child’s
grade. What brought you to the session today? What
tools would you like to get out of our time together?
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5. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease
6. Before You Talk
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Study up on other parents having
conversations
Use people, outings, media, etc.
Identify and clarify where you stand
Initial verbiage
Brainstorm follow-up questions
Practice with others
7. While You Are Talking
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Find out what they’re actually asking/saying
Find out why they’re asking/saying
Respond straightforwardly
Be mindful of emotion
Be explicit about where you stand
Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
“Great question” “What do you think?”
“You’re thinking about that, huh?” and “Let
me think about it some more”
8. After You Talk
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Go back to earlier
Double-check their understanding
Re-establish and clarify if needed
Reconciling disagreements and other
messages
Follow-up with alternate message givers
10. Example Statements
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“Boys are annoying!”
“Why is she a different color than me?”
Her lunch smelled real bad.
“Why doesn’t he have a daddy?’
How come we don’t go away on vacations
like everyone else?
“How come no one looks like me?”
“Why does he talk so funny?”
Her house was so small.
11. Taking it Home
What did you learn today
that was new, helpful, or
thought provoking?
What are some goals or
strategies you would like to
apply with your children?
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13. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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