Bullying affects all of us, whether we are perpetrating, receiving, or standing by bullying. Understand the difference between conflict and bullying, how bullying mirrors societal injustices, and how we can transform from bystanders to allies so that we can help create safe schools. Practicing inclusion in schools will help us create a more just world as we leave schools.
1. Bystander to Ally:
Changing Yourself to Change the World
Gilman School Middle School Students
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Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Agenda
Conflict versus Bullying
Why Should You Care?
Practicing for the Real Thing
Bystander to Ally
Questions
Resources
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4. The Big Deal About Bullying
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5. Definition of Conflict
A clash between two
individuals or groups
A disagreement or
argument about
something important
Others?
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6. When It’s Bullying
Power is uneven
Intent to harm
Repeated and
sustained
Efforts to hide from
adults
Advocacy not
changing behaviors
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7. Why Should You Care?
Health and Safety
Psychological Pain
Academic Risk
Explosive Release
Long-Term Scars
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12. Put Downs and Isms
“That’s so gay!” ----- heterosexism
“You’re so ghetto.” ----- classism and racism
“That’s retarded.” ----- abelism
“Don’t be such a b**ch.” ----- sexism
“Your name’s weird.” ----- ethnocentrism
“That’s so lame.” ----- abelism
“Sissy” ----- sexism, heterosexism
“Trailer trash!” ----- classism and racism
“Did you forget to take your meds?” ---- ableism
“Your food stinks!” ----- ethnocentrism
“Crybaby!” ----- adultism and sexism
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13. Becoming the Adults
We Want to Be
Adolescent Brain Development
Peer Pressure
Backstage and Frontstage Spaces
Path of Least Resistance
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14. An Ally Is…
“a person who is a member of the dominant or
majority group who works to end oppression in
his or her personal and professional life
through support of, and as an advocate with
and for, the oppressed population”
Washington and Evans, Becoming an Ally
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15. An Ally Is…
“Someone who doesn’t have to stand up for
someone else, who might even lose something
if they do, but they do it anyway because they
know it’s the right thing to do”
Anna, 6th Grader
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17. Ally Skills
Don’t exclude, hurt, or bully
Speak up when someone else is being bullied
Assume positive intentions, but don’t let that
assumption make you silent
Ask questions to clarify and to educate
Don’t make the person who is bullying into
someone who is getting targeted
Actively include those who are easily left out
If you know someone is getting bullied, tell an
adult at school or at home
Keep the climate healthy
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20. I change myself,
I change the world.
-Gloria Anzaldua
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21. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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22. Identity Resources
• Carlos H. Arce, “A Reconsideration of Chicano Culture
and Identity”
• Atkinson, Morten, & Sue, “Racial/Cultural Identity
Development Model (R/CID)”
• Mindy Bingham and Sandy Stryker, “Socioemotional
Development for Girls”
• Vivienne Cass, “Homosexual identity formation: Testing a
theoretical model”
• William Cross, Shades of Black: Diversity in African
American Identity”
• Anthony D’Augelli, “ Identity development and sexual
orientation: Toward a model of lesbian, gay, and
bisexual development”
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23. Identity Resources
• Erik Erikson, “Eight Stages of Man”
• J. E. Helms, Various Publications on Racial and Ethnic
Identity Development
• Jean Kim, “Processes of Asian American Identity
Development”
• James Maricia, “Four Ego and Identity Statuses”
• Suzanne Kobasa Ouellette, “The Three C’s of Hardiness”
• Jean S. Phinney, “Ethnic Identity in Adolescents and
Adults: Review of the Research”
• Ponterotto & Pederso, Preventing Prejudice
• Maria P. P. Root, Various Works on Multiracial Identity
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24. Identity Resources
• Patricia Romney, Karlene Ferron, and Jennifer Hill,
“Measuring the Success of Diversity Directors in
Independent Schools”
• Pedro Ruiz, “Latino/a Identity Development Model”
• Chalmer E. Thompson and Robert T. Carter, Racial
Identity Theory
• Alex Wilson, “How We Find Ourselves: Identity
Development and Two Spirit People”
• Christine J. Yeh, “The Collectivistic Nature of Identity
Development Among Asian-American College
Students”
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25. Miscellaneous Resources
• Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman, “Privilege and
Power,” Summer Diversity Institute, National Association
of Independent Schools, 2009
• Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Nurture Shock
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education
Network) www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference
• Johnnie McKinley, “Leveling the Playing Field and Raising
African American Students’ Achievement in Twenty-nine
Urban Classrooms,” New Horizons for Learning,
http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/differentiated/
mckinley.htm
Michael J Nakkula and Eric Toshalis, Understanding Youth.
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