What is the difference between everyday conflict and bullying? Learn about different types of aggression and practical tools in responding to conflicts and bullying.
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Hockaday Conflict and Bullying
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Conflict and Bullying:
Their Differences and Your Responsibility
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3. Definition of Conflict
• A clash between two
individuals or groups
• A disagreement or
argument about
something important
• A natural, normal part
of life
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4. When It’s Bullying
• Uneven Power
• Harm Intended
• Repetition
• Efforts to hide from
adults
• Advocacy not changing
behaviors
• NOT natural or normal
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7. Relational Aggression is when your
words/actions hurt relationships (or
threaten to hurt relationships) or make
someone feel not included or accepted.
Relational Aggression
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8. Indirect Aggression is when your
words/actions hurt someone and but
you deny it somehow.
Indirect Aggression
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9. Social Aggression
Social Aggression is when your
words/actions make someone feel bad
about themselves or feel like they’re
less popular in a group.
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10. Unhealthy Conflict and
Bullying Hurts Everyone
• Folks Who Are
Targeted
• Folks who Engage
in Targeting
• Folks Who Stand By
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11. What CAN You Do?
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15. D.E.A.R. Self Advocacy
• Describe – Describe actions or words without
judgment.
• Explain – Explain the impact of those actions or
words.
• Affirm – Affirm the person or relationship. Assume
positive intent.
• Request – Request different actions, request an
apology, etc.
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17. V.O.M.P. Conflict Tool
• Voice – Each person has the opportunity to VOICE their feelings
and experience of the conflict using “I” statements. The other person
LISTENS before sharing their experience.
• Own – Each person takes ownership of their piece in the conflict.
“Here’s my contribution to the mess.”
• Mile – Each person “walks a mile” in the other person’s shoes
and tries to see the conflict from the other person’s perspective.
• Plan – Both people work together to make a plan for moving
forward. What can we do so this doesn’t happen again? What will we
do differently next time?
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Words of Caution
• Pushing Behavior
• Outside Feelings
vs Inside Feelings
• Threatening with
Relationships
• No Joke Zone
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Apologizing and
Accepting Apologies
• Apologize for Real
• Accept for Real
• Don’t Accept Until
You’re Ready
• Move On Once You
Accept
21. Are You Often
Targeted?Don’t Go At It
Alone
• Know it’s not right
• You deserve better
• Ask/Tell them to stop
the behavior
• Seek healthy support
• Tell an adult
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22. Are You Often Targeting?
Don’t Go At It Alone
• Know it’s not right
• You are better than
that
• Stop the behavior
• Seek healthy
support
• Tell an adult
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23. Bystander to Upstander
• Speak up when someone else is being bullied
• Assume positive intentions, but don’t let that
assumption make you silent
• Ask questions
• Don’t make the person who is bullying into
someone who is getting targeted
• Actively include those who are easily left out
• If you know someone is getting bullied, tell an
adult at school or at home
• Keep the climate healthy
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24. Not Taking it Digital
• No Digital Conflicts!
• The Face Test – would you say it to their face?
• The Headline Test – would you want it broadcast?
• The Digital Self – are you the same person online?
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27. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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