What are ways to talk about identity, difference, and justice in age appropriate ways? How do you reinforce family values without shutting down perspectives? How do you facilitate authentic and respectful dialogue across difference? How do I support my child in understanding today's polarized society in a time of unprecedented events and contexts? Engage in these questions and more through this interactive session.
1. Milton Academy
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Conversations on
Identity, Difference, and Oppression
Age Leveled Conversations
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4. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
This model of identifiers and culture was created by Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman for NAIS Summer Diversity Institute,
adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe (SHRM 2003).
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5. Identity Frames
Intractability
Positive and Negative Encounters
Co-Authorship of Identity
Identity Socialization
Identity and Cultural Inclusion
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7. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease
8. When They’re Little
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Theme: Trying to Understand the World
Curiosity based questions about difference
Find out what they’re actually asking
Find out why they’re asking
Answer their questions straightforwardly
Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
Be mindful of children’s media – it’s not
always good for kids
9. In the Middle Years
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Theme: Who Am I? How Do I Have Power?
“Friendship Extinction Event”
Identity search through grouping
Good and bad cliques
Open their horizons about identity
Be steady through their rollercoaster
Coach more, teach less
10. In the Later Years
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Theme: My Future Place in the World
Gender and sexuality stereotypes
Power play through social status
Engagement in social media
The role of inclusivity in their college,
professional, and personal lives
Charging them to “practice for the real thing”
Define values and boundaries, then accept
that they will push
Be their consultant
11. Current Realities
Political Polarization
COVID-19
Black Lives Matter
Immigration, Detention Centers, Etc.
Gun Violence
Climate Change and Denial
Rise in Homelessness
And More…
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12. Young People’s Experience
Increase in Anti-Group Sentiment
Increased Uncivil Discourse
Rise in Sadness, Fear, and Anxiety
Increased Acting Out
And More…
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13. How to Talk to Young People
About Current Events
What have you heard?
How do you feel?
What questions do you have?
How can I support you?
Here are our values.
What positive action can you take?
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14. How to Talk to Young People
About Hate and Extremism
Prepare Yourself
Be Alert
Listen
Reassure
Be Honest
Share Your Values
Take Action
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15. How to Talk to Young People After
Personal Incidents
“I want to help you feel strong.”
Affection, correction, protection
Emotions are always right; not all
action is always right
Avoid either/or thinking
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16. Helping Young People Talk to One Another
Create Safety and Courage
Express Feelings
Generate Questions
Share Facts
Learn More
Complicate Thinking
Take Action
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17. Talking With Your Kids
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Be explicit about your values
Be open about your own
struggles
Don’t stay silent
100 1-Minute Conversations
Relationship Based
Interruption
19. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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