Talking about difficult topics like race can raise anxiety for many people, and yet we must have the conversation in our schools and our lives in order to be more inclusive and change the world for the better. As People of Color, we face an additional challenge of interrupting behaviors and working for systemic change without being accused of forwarding selfish motives. Through storytelling, discussion, and theories, gain practical skills for facilitating as well as participating in the conversation and process of change.

1. Authentic and Powerful Selves :
Dialogues for People of Color
Northfield Mount Hermon
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
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2. Agenda
 Our Personal Journeys
 Seeing Through the Clouds
 Interruption Skills
 Empowerment, Coalition, and Action
 What Does it Mean for Me/Us?
 Wrap up
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3. Tale of the Good Korean Girl Gone Bad,
Gone Good, Gone Super
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4. My Story: Korea
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5. My Story: Early Confusion
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6. My Story: Full Assimilation
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7. My Story: The Angry Phase
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8. My Story: A New Path
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9. Identity Development for People of Color
Based on Cross’ Model of African American Identity Development
 Pre-Encounter
 Encounter
 Immersion/Emersion
 Internalization
 Internalization/Commitment
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10. What is YOUR path?
What is YOUR story?
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11. Identity Development for White People
Helms’ Model of White Identity Development
 Contact
 Disintegration
 Reintegration
 Pseudo-Independence
 Immersion-Emersion
 Autonomy
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12. Cycle of Systematic Oppression
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13. Cycle of Socialization
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14. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
External Internal
Position
or Title
Geographic Location
Appearance
Race
Status Class
Sexual
Gender Orientation
Ethnicity
Age
Language Ability Religion
Educational Seniority
Attainment
Relationship
To Power Players
Institutional
Adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe (SHRM 2003).
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15. Dimensions of Identity
 Everybody has a complex
intersectionality of identities
 Different identities have more salience
for different people
 We tend to identify strongest with
identities of marginalization and forget
those that have privilege
 We tend to hold most knowledge and
take most action around our identities of
marginalization
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16. Seeing Though the Clouds
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17. Conflation of Individual/Institutional
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18. Situational Advantage
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19. Accumulated Advantages
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20. Equality versus Equity
Everybody gets a shirt versus everybody
gets a shirt that fits.
Giving everybody some insulin in
equality. Giving only people who are
diabetic some insulin is equity.
What is “fair”?
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21. Correlation versus Causation
Correlation: When income is averaged and compared, there
is a strong correlation between race and wealth. This is due
to a myriad of historical, systemic, and economic factors that
impact People of Color and Whites differently.
Causation: When income is averaged and compared, there is a
strong correlation between race and wealth. This must be
because People of Color must not be as smart, hard-
working, or good with money as Whites.
Correlation: When more firefighters are fighting a fire, the
bigger the fire is observed to be.
Causation: The additional firefighters made the fire bigger.
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22. Privilege
“Privilege exists when one group has
something of value that is denied to others
simply because of the groups they belong
to, rather than because of anything they’ve
done or failed to do.”
[as described by Peggy McIntosh and quoted by Allan Johnson]
Privilege is SYSTEMIC. It drives the
systems that dominate our societies.
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23. Two Types of Privilege
Unearned Advantage Conferred Dominance
an unearned entitlement bestowed control;
(i.e. things of value that granted authority;
all people should have) awarded power or
that is restricted to domination- Giving one
certain groups group power over
another
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24. An Ally Is…
“a person who is a member of the dominant or
majority group who works to end oppression in
his or her personal and professional life
through support of, and as an advocate with
and for, the oppressed population”
Washington and Evans, Becoming an Ally
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25. An Ally Is…
“Someone who doesn’t have to stand up for
someone else, who might even lose something
if they do, but they do it anyway because they
know it’s the right thing to do”
6th Grade Student
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26. Developing into an Ally
Active Passive Passive Active
Karen Bradberry, PhD
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27. Cycle of Liberation
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28. NCBI Effective Interventions Model
 Reduce Defensiveness
– Tone
– Body Language
– Respect
 Keep the Conversation Going
– Hear Them Out
– Ask Open-Ended Questions
– Set Aside Your Feeling for the Moment
– Dialogue
 Build the Relationship
 Win an Ally
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29. Everything You Ever Wanted to Interrupt
But Didn’t Know How To…
 Think of trigger events of phrases
 Which ones have proven most challenging?
 Which ones would you like to strategize effective
interventions for?
 Strategize for different people: strangers,
acquaintances, friends, family members,
children, etc.
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30. Practice Makes…
Please work in pairs:
-Feed the trigger phrase
-Respond
-Feedback
-Try Again
-Repeat
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31. Sharing the Wisdom
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32. Sustaining Ourselves
 Have more real discussions with people
who affirm you
 Have more real one-on-one dialogue with
people who may or may not affirm you
 Empty your bucket with the right
audience
 Fighting the Right Battles
 Don’t hate the player, hate the game
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33. Ladder of Empowerment for People of Color
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34. Parker Palmer’s Cycle of a Movement
 Divided No More
 Communities of Courage
 Going Public
 System of Alternative
Rewards
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35. What Does It Mean for Me/Us?
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36. Resources
• Anti-Defamation League
• Cross Cultural Connections
(www.CulturesConnecting.com)
• Facilitation First
• Jimpact Enterprises, Inc.
• National Coalition Building Institute
• The People’s Institute
• Stirfry Seminars
• The Thiagi Group
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37. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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