This document discusses gender and sexuality diversity. It addresses gender differences and biases that can negatively impact both girls and boys. Gender biases can lead girls to feel they must be "good" and "pretty" and can cause boys to feel they cannot show weakness. The document also discusses people for whom the gender binary does not apply and provides suggestions on supporting all children, including teaching diversity, respecting their identities, and modeling inclusive behavior.
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What Boys and Girls Are Made Of:
Gender and Sexuality Diversity
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3. Agenda
• Gender Differences
• Gender Bias
• Impacts of the Gender Binary
• When the Binary Doesn’t Work
• Rethinking Gender and Sexuality
• What Can We Do?
• Discussions
• Resources
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16. Boys and Gender Bias
Where Does it Lead?
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17. Central Message for Boys
Do Not Be Weak.
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Be so, and you will be likened to
a girl or you will be called gay.
18. The “Tough Guy” in Conflict
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19. The “Tough Guy” in the Workplace and the Home
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23. Process Break
What is new, interesting,
thought provoking?
How have you seen gender
showing up for your children
?
What are the specific questions
or concerns that come up for
how to support children?
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25. What Can We Do?
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26. What Can We Do for Girls?
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• Teach the difference
between self-sacrificing and
good.
• Talk about or compliment
something besides her looks.
• Value the quality of her
relationships, not the
quantity.
• Give her access to diverse
women mentors.
• Role-Play difficult
conversations with her.
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27. What Can We Do for Boys?
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• Teach the difference
between strong and
tough.
• Talk about feelings and
relationships.
• Make it okay to be
vulnerable.
• Give him access to
diverse male mentors.
• Help them understand
societal homophobia.
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28. What Can We Do for Gender Diverse Kids?
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• Minimize gendered
language.
• Interrupt gender exclusive
behavior.
• Make gender insignificant
in grouping.
• Mix up gender
stereotyped activities.
• Believe what they tell you.
• Normalize their
experience.
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29. What Can We Do for All?
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• Help them develop strong interaction and social skills.
• Show them diverse role models of all GSD identities.
• Teach about gender and sexuality diversity.
• Respect and nurture their true selves.
• Teach “norm”, “normal”, and “good”.
• Share your stories.
• Model the way.
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Teach Media Literacy
• Choose media FOR intentionally for the classroom.
• Engage in media WITH youth.
• Help youth understand the hidden messages of media.
• Help youth think about how they want to internalize or
reject these messages.
32. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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33. Resources
• Joshua M. Aronson, Ph.D., “Improving Achievement &
Narrowing the Gap,” Learning and the Brain
Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference.
• Miss Representation, documentary film on media and
women
• United Nations Population Fund Statistics on Gender
Equality as of 2005
http://www.unfpa.org/swp/2005/presskit/factsheets/facts
_gender.htm
• Learning to be critically literate of mass media
http://www.medialit.org/
• Media Guide for Parents and Educators
http://www.commonsensemedia.org/
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34. Gender Resources
• JoAnn Deak, Ph.D., Girls Will Be Girls: Raising
Confident and Courageous Daughters, How Girls
Thrive
• Jackson Katz, Tough Guise, Wrestling with Manhood,
The Macho Paradox
• John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various
studies on early gender differences in competition and
play
• Mary Pipher, Ph.D., Reviving Ophelia: Saving the
Selves of Adolescent Girls
• Rachel Simmons, Odd Girl Out, Odd Girl Speaks Out,
Curse of the Good Girl
• Michael Thompson, Raising Cain, Speaking of Boys,
It’s a Boy!
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35. Gender and Sexuality Diversity Resources
• Jennifer Bryan
• Gender Odyssey
• Gender Spectrum
• GLSEN
• Northwest Network
• Put This On the Map
• Safe Schools Coalition
• Social Justice Handbook Guide to Gender
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