How do we learn about various group identities such as female, African-American or middle class? What messages do children internalize about themselves and others? How can you guide effective conversations with your elementary age child about race, bias, diversity, and inclusivity? Rosetta Lee, a local educator, diversity consultant and activist, will teach us how to instill positive self-identity in our children and coach them to be positive influences on the identities of others. Join us for a presentation and Q&A.

1. Parent Wiser
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Talking to Kids About Race and Bias
For Younger Ages (K-5)
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Agenda
 Increasing Inclusivity
 Raising Young Children
 Questions and Answers
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4. Disclaimers and
Other Food for Thought
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5. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
This model of identifiers and culture was created by Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman for NAIS Summer Diversity Institute,
adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe (SHRM 2003).
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The Jones Model of Cultural Competence
Cultural Self-
Awareness
Cultural
Intelligence
Cross-Cultural
Effectiveness
Skills
Countering
Oppression
through
Inclusion

7.  Identity Frames
 Intractability
 Positive and Negative Encounters
 Co-Authorship of Identity
 Identity Socialization
Identity and Cultural Inclusion
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8. Developmentally Appropriate
Approaches and Talks
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9. Early Awareness of Difference
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Age Signs
6 months Can discern racial feature differences
3 years Awareness of own and others’ gender.
Beginning awareness of gender roles
5 years Desire to categorize – self, others
Curiosity about meaning of differences
Aware of biases
7 years Can regulate biases versus behaviors
Starting to parrot adult messages
3rd grade Are aware of societal stereotypes
cross group play can increase
5th grade Have internalized stereotypical messages
cross group play can decrease

10. When They’re Little
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Theme: Trying to Understand the World
 Curiosity based questions about difference
 Find out what they’re actually asking
 Find out why they’re asking
 Answer their questions straightforwardly
 Model and coach humility, delight, and
curiosity about difference
 Be mindful of children’s media – it’s not
always good for kids

11. Talking With Your Kids
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 Be explicit about your values
 Be open about your own
struggles
 Don’t stay silent
 100 1-Minute Conversations
 Relationship Based
Interruption

12. Questions and Comments
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13. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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14. How to Talk to Young People
About Current Events
 What have you heard?
 How do you feel?
 What questions do you have?
 How can I support you?
 Here are our values.
 What positive action can you take?
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15. How to Talk to Young People
About Hate and Extremism
 Prepare Yourself
 Be Alert
 Listen
 Reassure
 Be Honest
 Share Your Values
 Take Action
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16. How to Talk to Young People After
Personal Incidents
 “I want to help you feel strong.”
 Affection, correction, protection
 Emotions are always right; not all
action is always right
 Avoid either/or thinking
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17. Helping Young People Talk to One Another
 Create Safety and Courage
 Express Feelings
 Generate Questions
 Share Facts
 Learn More
 Complicate Thinking
 Take Action
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