Gone are days when girls are made of "sugar and spice and everything nice"... or are they? We are barraged with messages about gender everywhere - our homes, schools, the media, and more. What hidden lessons are we learning? How do these lessons affect everything - girls' confidence, sense of worth, assertiveness, healthy friendships, and avoiding the "Mean Girl" phenomenon? In this workshop for 3rd through 5th grade girls and their parents and guardians, we will explore girl world, the challenges girls face, and ways that we can all work toward positive self esteem, healthy identity development, and empowerment in action for all girls!

1. Seattle Girls’ School
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Surviving and Thriving in Girl World:
A Workshop for Girls and Their Parents/Guardians
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Agenda
• Gender Differences
• Gender Bias
• Effects of Gender Bias on Girls
• What Can We Do?
• Discussions
• Resources
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4. Disclaimers and
Other Food for Thought
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5. Gender Differences
What do you think are some
differences between boys and
girls? What makes you think
that? As you answer, think
about what’s true for you, for
your peers, for youth in books
and movies, on TV and
radio, etc., as well as what you
get told by the adults around
you.
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6. Gender Differences
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7. Brash
Troublemaker
Strong
Competitive
Physical
Silent
Clever
Mistake-Prone
Belligerent
Intuitive
Well-Behaved
Delicate
Cooperative
Emotional
Verbal
Pretty
Perfect
Nice
Gender Bias
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http://www.genderremixer.com/html5/#

11. Gender Bias
in Music, Movies, or TV
Pick your favorite love song, TV
show, or Movie and see how it
represents you and your interests
or the worth of girls in general.
For songs, please use the
Nutritional Impact Sheet. For TV
shows or Movies please use The
Bechdel Test Handout. Please
be prepared to share reactions
and thoughts to the exercise.
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12. Girls and Gender Bias
Where Does it Lead?
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13. Beauty
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The “Pretty Girl” on Beauty

14. Walking a Thin Line of “Good Girl”
Sexy --- Slutty
Powerful --- Mean
Smart --- Bookish
Cheerful --- Uncool
Confident --- “All That”
Athletic --- Jocky
Close to Friends --- Gay
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15. The “Good Girl” in the Workplace and Home
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16. The “Good Girl” in Conflict
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17. Alternative Aggression
• Relational Aggression
• Indirect Aggression
• Social Aggression
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18. Friends and Frienemies
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19. How Does it Show Up?
Please discuss how gender
bias’ effect shows up in your
own life or in your peers’
lives. What are your
thoughts about what is
happening and why?
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20. What Can We Do?
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Be Media Literate
• Choose media intentionally.
• Engage together with in media and what is being taught.
• Are these messages true? How do you know?
• Do you want to internalize or reject these messages?
• Do you want to financially support these messages?

22. Getting Better at Conflict:
D.E.A.R. Advocacy
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23. Getting Better at Conflict:
AIMS Problem Solving
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24. Not Getting Bullied:
You Deserve Better Than That
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25. What Can Girls Do?
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• Know the difference between
self-sacrificing and good.
• Talk about or compliment
each other on something
besides looks.
• Value the quality of your
relationships, not the quantity.
• Look for diverse women
mentors.
• Role-Play difficult
conversations.
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26. How Can We All Help?
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• Discuss nontraditional family and relationship
models.
• Recognize diverse role models of all GSD identities.
• Develop strong interaction and social skills.
• Respect and nurture our true selves.
• Have healthy outlets for feelings.
• Practice the way.
• Share stories.
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27. What Do YOU Want to Do?
Please discuss one thing you
could do differently to offset
the effects of gender
bias, model healthy
behaviors, or remind yourself
of your strength and
potential.
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28. Undoing Gender Bias
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29. Questions and Answers
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30. Presenter Information
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6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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31. Resources
• Joshua M. Aronson, Ph.D., “Improving Achievement & Narrowing the Gap,”
Learning and the Brain Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003
• Roy Baumeister, Case Western Reserve University, Various Social
Psychology Experiments on the Effects of Social Exclusion
• Beatbullying Toolkit for
Teachers, http://www.beatbullying.org/images/teachers.pdf
• “Cycle of Bullying,” North Central Educational Service
District, http://www.ncesd.org/safe_civil/docs/resources/cycle_of_bullying.p
df
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network)
www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference.
• Tara Kuther, “Understanding Bullying,”
PTA.org, http://www.pta.org/pr_magazine_article_details_1117637268750.
html
• John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various studies on theory of mind
and power.
• Michael Thompson & Kathy Schultz, “The Psychological Experiences of
Students of Color,” Independent School
Magazine, http://www.nais.org/publications/ismagazinearticle.cfm?Itemnum
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32. Resources
• Roy Baumeister, Case Western Reserve University, Various Social
Psychology Experiments on the Effects of Social Exclusion
• Beatbullying Toolkit for
Teachers, http://www.beatbullying.org/images/teachers.pdf
• “Cycle of Bullying,” North Central Educational Service
District, http://www.ncesd.org/safe_civil/docs/resources/cycle_of_bullying.p
df
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network)
www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference.
• Tara Kuther, “Understanding Bullying,”
PTA.org, http://www.pta.org/pr_magazine_article_details_1117637268750.
html
• John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various studies on theory of mind
and power.
• Michael Thompson & Kathy Schultz, “The Psychological Experiences of
Students of Color,” Independent School
Magazine, http://www.nais.org/publications/ismagazinearticle.cfm?Itemnum
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33. Gender Specific Resources
• JoAnn Deak, Ph.D., Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and
Courageous Daughters, How Girls Thrive
• Pooja Makhijani, Under Her Skin: How Girls Experience Race in America.
• John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various studies on early gender
differences in competition and play and “Love Lab.”
• Northwest Girls Coalition, Protective Factors for Middle School Girls -
What can Parents Do?
• Mary Pipher, Ph.D., Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent
Girls
• Rachel Simmons, Odd Girl Out, Odd Girl Speaks Out, Curse of the Good
Girl
• Harriet R. Tenenbaum, “Gender Achievement Motivation,” Learning and
the Brain Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003.
• Rosalind Wiseman, Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter
Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends & Other Realities of
Adolescence, Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads
• Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth.
• Naomi Wolf, Promiscuities.
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