Conflict Resolution and Bullying Prevention Strategies
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The document discusses conflict resolution strategies for girls, including defining different types of aggression such as relational, indirect, and social aggression. It provides tips for dealing with conflict and bullying such as using the DEAR and AIMS methods, standing up for yourself, seeking support, and telling an adult. The document also discusses why people stay in abusive relationships and how to be an ally to those being bullied.
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- 9. Why Keep Them Around? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 15. Relational Aggression is when your words/actions hurt relationships (or threaten to hurt relationships) or make someone feel not included or accepted. Relational Aggression Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 16. Indirect Aggression is when your words/actions hurt someone through rumors or other indirect ways hurt and/or you say you didn ’t mean it. Indirect Aggression Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 17. Social Aggression Social Aggression is when your words/actions make someone feel bad about themselves or feel like they ’re less popular in a group. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 19. What CAN You Do? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 20. D.E.A.R. Conflict Resolution Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 21. AIMS Conflict Problem Solving Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
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- 27. Debrief • What information was new, useful, or interesting to you? • What other questions do you have? Who in your life can help you figure out the answers? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 28. “ The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” Anna Quindlan Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
- 29. Questions, Comments, Concerns? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http://tiny.cc/rosettalee)
Editor's Notes
- Think about the friends and frenemies in your life. If you don ’t have frienemies, think about the models you have seen (other people’s friendships, movies, TV shows, books, etc.). What are the characteristics that make a friend a true friend and a frenemy a frenemy? (worksheet part 1)
- You may look at the list and think, oh they are SO out of here. You may have known these things all along but you keep staying friends with them. Why? Brainstorm some reasons why you haven ’t or won’t dump these frenemies., worksheet part 2.
- Alternative aggression defines any behavior that expresses anger in ways other than direct words or physical aggression. It has been happening for years among girls, but only recently has the literature come more into the mainstream with books like Odd Girl Out and Queen Bees and Wannabes and movies like Mean Girls.
- Rachel Simmons - Girls don ’ t want to express anger directly to the person that caused it for fear of losing that relationship. There are problems when direct confrontation happens. Because so many girls lack facility with everyday conflict expression of anger makes listeners skittish and defensive. The sound of someone upset feels like the first sign of impending isolation, a kind of social thunder echoing in the distance. Result: relational aggression - silent treatment. Not inviting someone. Stares and glares. I won ’ t be friends with you if …” Pretending the person isn ’ t there. Sabotaging a relationship.
- Rachel Simmons - Plague of the “ sorry ” : perfunctory like “ bless you. ” Really means, I don ’ t want to lose you so let ’ s call truce. But incident is recorded in memory to bring up at a later fight. Plague of the “ I ’ m just kidding. ” “ Can ’ t you take a joke? ” Girl making comment is really taking a jab to release aggression but keeps the “ nice girl ” thing by saying she was kidding. The girl on receiving end is hurt but won ’ t say because she doesn ’ t want to be “ hypersensitive girl, ” someone no one likes. For boys who have other outlets for anger, one-up teasing each other is actually a joke. For girls who have no other outlets, joking takes on another meaning altogether.
- Can ’ t you take a joke? Gosh you are such an over-reactor. Eye rolling. Sarcasm. Mocking. Rumors - someone else does the “ dirty work ” in ruining the reputation and relationships of the target.
- D escribe what ’s happening (without judgment) E xplain how it makes you feel (on the inside) A ffirm the other person (be authentic) R equest a different course of action (with respect)
- Affirm the relationship I statement that explains what ’s going on and how it makes you feel My contribution to this conflict was… Solutions you can contribute to resolve the conflict, seeking solutions from your partner
- Pushing behaviors: Lots of you statements Addressing the person ’s character instead of her behavior Bringing up the past Bringing up unrelated issues & other conflict Justifying poor actions (you started it!) Fake apologies Bringing up other people (she agrees with me!) Outside feelings vs Inside feelings We tend to stick to angry, annoyed, frustrated and other “outside” feelings because they seem safer. But these areactually feelings that can make the other person get on the defensive instead of wanting to hear you out. Besides, these outside feelings are manifestations of more vulnerable “Inside” feelings like being worried, being sad, being scared, feeling lonely, feeling hurt. People tend to soften and want to listen to these. Threatening with relationships: Be sure conditions you put forth don ’t sound like “I won’t be friends with you if you don’t do exactly what I want.” This is relational aggression, not a part of healthy relationship. Think to yourself, “Am I asking for these changes because these actions are harmful to me and my emotional safety? Have I found that I cannot live with the current circumstances?” Then it’s a conflict that may need you to consider ending the relationship. If you’re thinking, “It would be easier for me or it would improve my circumstances if she did this,” what you are doing is making a request. Threatening to end the relationship over it is bullying.