Part of cultivating happiness is the development of meaningful interpersonal relationships. This presentation and workshop explores the ways in which relationships enrich our lives. It examines how can cultivate meaningful relationships that sustain happy lives.
4. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my âbest selfâ 1 Make a new connection today
5. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Make a new connection today
6. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Appreciate : What is good about⌠this moment? Cultivate : How can I continue to improve? Reflecting & Appreciation
7. The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Welcome new attendees Appreciate : I was able to say âhelloâ to Jack and Phyl Cultivate : I was nervous; breathe more next time
8. Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain
9. Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain
13. Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain
14. II: CULTIVATING THE PRACTICE OF SELF-CULTIVATION (In Work and Life) Reflecting upon and Developing Your MINDSET Cultivating my best self Appreciation Reflection for Cultivation
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17. Growth Mindset Ability is not a fixed thing; it is a set of skills that can be and must be developed
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19. Ability Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback Joe, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes.
20. Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback WAH!!! YOU DONâT LIKE MY CHARTS. YOU DONâT LIKE ME. WAH!!! DONâT YOU KNOW THAT I AM MY DIAGRAMS?
21. Incrementally Improving Irma TAKE TWO Irma, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes. Hmm⌠What can I learn from this? Esteemed Boss
22. Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain
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26. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. Before We Meet ME YOU
27. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. We Meet ME YOU Funny Good Provider Reads World News Looks like Brad Pitt Likes Chick Flicks Walking in the Rain Active Likes Football Reads World Wrestling Looks like the Pitts Likes Action Movies Walking Like John Wayne yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no Checklist Checklist Do some Independent Ratings
28. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. Make Independent Decisions ME YOU Funny Good Provider Reads World News Looks like Brad Pitt Likes Chick Flicks Walking in the Rain Active Likes Football Reads World Wrestling Looks like the Pitts Likes Action Movies Walking Like John Wayne yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no Checklist Checklist
29. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. ME YOU Funny Good Provider Reads World News Looks like Brad Pitt Likes Chick Flicks Walking in the Rain Active Likes Football Reads World Wrestling Looks like the Pitts Likes Action Movies Walking Like John Wayne yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no Checklist Checklist YES Make Independent Decisions
30. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. ME YOU Funny Good Provider Reads World News Looks like Brad Pitt Likes Chick Flicks Walking in the Rain Active Likes Football Reads World Wrestling Looks like the Pitts Likes Action Movies Walking Like John Wayne yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no Checklist Checklist YES Make Independent Decisions
31. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. ME YOU Funny Good Provider Reads World News Looks like Brad Pitt Likes Chick Flicks Walking in the Rain Active Likes Football Reads World Wrestling Looks like the Pitts Likes Action Movies Walking Like John Wayne yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no Checklist Checklist YES YES Make Independent Decisions
32. The Traditional View MY fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. YOUR fixed beliefs, values, feelings, attitudes, preferences, intentions, âtraitsâ, etc. ME YOU Now we have a relationship And the independent bouncy ball process continuesâŚ.
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42. How Does Communication Happen? RECEIVER x-y-z a-b-c Decode message Translate to speech Transmit message SENDER Construct thought SENDER RECEIVER Transmit message Translate to speech Decode message Construct thought
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55. 1. The Centrality of Love (Itâs not what you might think)
64. 2. Identifying Satisfying Relationships Me : What am I looking for in this relationship? You : What can I contribute to this relationship? Us : What we create together in this relationship? Three Questions
65. 3. Coordinating Interests Bowling, Motorcycles ân Republican Politics Opera, Bicycling, and President Barack Obama
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67. 3. Coordinating Interests Bowling ! Opera ! Republican! Democrat Biking conflict! conflict! Motorcycle! daytrips! MAX TINA With Alice With Ralph With Norton With Trudy
68. 4. The Central Importance of Managing Conflict
76. I Win, You Lose Mother : Â Â âItâs raining out. Â Put on your raincoat.â Sarah : Â Â Â Â âI donât want to wear my raincoat.â Mother : Â Â âI said for you to put on your raincoat. Â If you donât put it on, no party Saturday.â Sarah : Â Â Â Â (Reluctantly putting on the raincoat) â I hate this coat.â
77. You Win, I Lose Mother : âItâs raining out. Â Why donât you go and put on your new raincoat.â Sarah : Â Â Â Â âI hate that raincoat. Â Everyone will laugh at me if I wear it.â Mother : Â âWhat do you mean? Itâs a lovely raincoat. Â Please put it on for me?â Sarah : âI hate that coat; you canât make me put it onâ Mother : Â Â "(Exasperated) Allright then, you donât have to wear it. Â But itâs such a nice coat!"
78. Compromise Mother : Â âItâs raining out. Â Why donât you go and put on your raincoat.â Sarah : Â Â Â Â âI hate that raincoat. Â Everyone will laugh at me if I wear it.â Mother : Â âBut itâs cold out and I donât want you to get wet. Â Wear the coatâ Sarah : Â Â Â Â âIâll wear the coat but only from here to the bus. Â Iâm not going into school wearing it.â Mother : Â "(Exasperated) Okay, at least you wonât get wet waiting.â
79. Win-Win Solutions Mother : Â âItâs raining out. Â Why donât you go and put on your raincoat.â Sarah : Â Â Â Â âI hate that raincoat. Â Everyone will laugh at me if I wear it.â Mother : Â âI didnât know you hated that coat! Â Â I want you to be warm and dry. Is there a way that you can be warm and dry and not have everyone laugh at you?â Sarah : Â Â Â âI like your blue raincoat. Â Itâs really cool.â Mother : Â âWhat? Â That old and ugly thing? Â I canât believe you actually like it. Â Â
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