This article describes a new book by 97 year old Hyacinth Mottley.

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This article provides helpful information for emotionally wounded people.
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The Walking Wounded
By Marcus M. Mottley, Ph.D.
We are a wounded people. In this largely uncaring world, people are hurt from exploitation and
victimization. People everywhere are experiencing all kinds of rape and trauma: racial, financial,
political, organizational and sexual. Children are abused. Marriages are broken. Tragedies of all
kinds natural and man-made afflict all of us. And many of these wounds cut deep and last
beyond a lifetime.
In many cases, these wounded people are victims of the criminal, hurtful, or selfish actions of
others. In other cases the emotionally wounded have self-inflicted wounds and are victims of their
own hardheaded, addictive or narcissistic actions. The outcome is the same regardless of the
source. People are emotionally wounded! And so they struggle with crippling emotions such as
anxiety, anger, fear, desperation, shame and guilt, hatred, depression, and low self-esteem.
The pain of such emotions is often present with us even though the incidents and relationships
that caused the hurt may be long past. We have difficulty with our relationships even those within
our own households. On the job, we cant get along with colleagues. We fight with our neighbors
whether they are next door, around the corner, in the next county or in the next country. Politically
there are fights everywhere: neighbor against neighbor; family against family; country against
country.
These are the walking emotionally wounded who suffer as a result of knives in their backs and
forks in their hearts perpetrated on them mostly by people who they trust, respect and depend on.
Our emotional wounds show in the insanity of our public and private actions. What else can
explain a father raping his daughter or a mother killing her kids? What else can explain a priest
sexually abusing young children? What else can explain a politician raping his country of the
financial resources earmarked for those who need it most in his country? What else can explain
caregivers who exploit the elderly and the disabled? Those people the perpetrators of those
disgusting and horrible actions are often themselves among the emotionally wounded.
Caution! Think carefully before you decide that because you are not in this dastardly group and
you therefore are not emotionally wounded!
Not everyone who is emotionally wounded abuse or hurt others to the degree that those described
above do. Most people who are emotionally wounded do not abuse children and are not involved
in any kind of rape financial, political or sexual. Most appear to live normal lives. Their emotional
wounds and hurt are hidden deep on the inside and only shows itself to the trained analyst and the
expert eye. But those emotional wounds do wreak havoc with their lives and the lives of those
closest to them.

2. What are some of the symptoms of being emotionally wounded?
Addiction to approval and people pleasing
Alcohol and drug abuse
Gambling
Manipulation of others
Lust for control and power
Possessiveness
Extreme selfishness, disloyalty and self-centeredness
Lashing out at and hurting others without any visible signs of regret
Eating disorders
Kleptomania
Shopping addiction
High levels of anxiety
Fear of intimacy
Emotional numbness
Overly sensitive
Intensely secretive
Very little patience or tolerance for others
Shame and guilt
Nightmares
Rage and hatred including self-hatred and anger towards themselves
Depression
Sense of hopelessness leading to suicidal thoughts and gestures.
Phobias
Obsessive compulsive disorders
Irrational expectations (stated and unstated) of others
Abusive behavior including child abuse
It shows up in their children who exhibit emotional pain by being abusive and violent; children who
use drugs and become involved in anti-social and delinquent activities.
As you can see emotional wounds are a fact of life and is exhibited all around us.
There is hope, however, for those who think that they are alone in their suffering. Despite
emotional and psychological wounds there are things that they can do individually and collectively
to heal the emotional wounds and improve their overall emotional health. People with emotional
wounds need a lot of things.
Here are a few of the many tasks:
They must acknowledge that they need help. This may be difficult for those who believe that their
situation is hopeless. It could also be difficult for those who are intensely secretive.
They need intensive and clinically sophisticated help through counseling and psychotherapy with
expert clinicians.
They need to feel a sense of hope. This will start them on their journey towards healing.
They must express themselves, to talk and be listened to. In this endeavor, they need to hear
themselves from the inside and at the deepest levels of their psyche. Talk-therapy could be

3. enhanced with expressive therapy whereby the individual is allowed to express themselves in
myriads of ways with the guidance of an experienced professional. In this regard, any therapeutic
intervention would have to take into account the dynamic, sensitive, tenuous and potentially
dangerous nature of the therapeutic process for people suffering from deep emotional trauma.
They must accept that time does not heal emotional wounds or scars! Then they need to give
themselves permission to let go of the past and heal from the inside out.
If codependency is a factor, they need to begin recovery and healing and develop awareness in
the many ways that this is a feature in their lives.
They must uncover and then deal with the shadow parts of themselves which remain hidden from
their conscious minds.
There are many resources that can help people who are suffering from emotional wounds. I
encourage people to begin by reading books on emotional healing and finding clinically competent
therapists and counselors to help them.
For a list of resources that are readily available, please go to: www.HealYourHurt.com or click on
the link above and below this article.
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This article provides helpful information for emotionally wounded people.
www.healyourhurt.com
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