1. Welcome

2. Have you ever thought
about why we like
Hershey Kisses?
 They taste good.
 We feel better when we eat them.
 They are predictable.
 They meet our expectations.

3. The Magic of a Box of
Chocolates
 Sometimes we don’t know what is in the box.
 For some there is love and excitement.
 For some there is good along with the bad.
 Sometimes they melt
 Sometimes the choices do not meet our expectations.
 Sometimes the choices exceed our expectations!
 Sometimes we just can’t say “No”

4. “Life is like
a box of
chocolates”

6. Hopes and Goals:
•Provoke thought!
•Share some meaningful
skills.
•Enjoy our time together
•Be more like Mama! (Forrest)

7. Identify something
that makes you smile!
Identify something
that

8. Something you are
A priority
thankful
in your
life

9. Identify something you are
proud of

10. Things
you are
thankful for!

11. Something you do to
recover from the day.

12. “Stuff Happens
Forrest Gump
Which of these affects
your life?

13. Rate of Change

14. Loss of control

15. Relationships are
complicated

16. Communicating effectively

17. Money
Issues
How expensive
is your chocolate?

18. Media
Influences

19. Culture Change
Job Loss
Divorce
Death
Relationship issues
Financial Issues

21. SYMPTOMS
 ANXIETY
 MUSCLE TENSION
 SLEEP RELATED ISSUES
 STOMACH PROBLEMS
 DEPRESSION
 IMMUNE SYSTEM

22. How many of these
do you have?
Backache
s
Headaches
Ten
ANXIETY sion
adn ess
S
Heartaches

23. “Life is like a two
minute warning”
“Forrest Gump”
Make Choices

24. FACTORS TO REDUCE
ANXIETY
• NUTRTIONAL CONCERNS
• TENSION RELEASE AND DIVERSION
• COPING RESPONSES
•BELLY BREATHING

25. How many
of you have
sleep problems?
Actions you
can take!

26. Prior to Sleep
 CREATE RITUALS
 SLOW DOWN ONE TO TWO HOURS
BEFORE BED
 AVOID HEAVY MEALS & SNACKING
 AVOID ALCOHOL And CAFFINE
 SLEEP IN ONE PLACE
 NO TV,FOOD OR COMPUTER IN BED ROOM

27. TROUBLE GETTING TO SLEEP
 AVOID IRRITANTS
 DO DEEP BREATHING OR DEEP MUSCLES
RELAXATIONS.
 LIMIT TIME TO BE RESTLESS.
 LIMIT LIGHT AND SOUND
 STILL CAN’T SLEEP GET UP – BE
POSITIVE

28. TROUBLE STAYING ASLEEP
 DEEP RELAXATIONS
 NOTE PAD – WRITE THOUGHTS
 SET LIMITS
 GET UP AND BE POSITIVE

29. “Stupid is as
stupid does!”
Forrest Gump

30. CHALLENGES WE
CREATE
Things
we do to
ourselves!

31. CHO
ICE
S

32. Challenge
One
Worry WORRY

33. Worry is like a rocking
chair: It gives you
something to do, but it
doesn't get you
anywhere.
 Erma Bombeck, God's Little
Devotional Book for mothers
US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)

34. The Nature of Worry
Non productive
Concern
thought
Same Reoccurring
Concern thoughts
More
thought

35. So what can you do?
Seek
Action

36. Be Clear worry is…
 Not productive
 Not rational
 Emotionally charged
 May have some truth in it

37. RE-DIRECT
YOUR
THOUGHTS!

38. Action Options
Dale Carnegie
Seek ideas to improve
upon the worst?
Act

39. SEEK DIVERSIONS
 EXERCISE/ SPORTS
 HOBBIES
 ESCAPES/ MOVIES/
ENTERTAINMENT

40. CHALLENGE TWO
The
Uncontrollable
SITAUTIONS
And Worry

41. Acceptance can be
an
Action
Action
You have
You have NO Control
CONTROL and your
actions are
Is and
NO actions
evident are evident
The Key

42. SITUATIONS MAY INCLUDE
ADDICTIONS
CHRONIC ILLNESS
FINANCIAL ISSUES
SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN

43. GENERAL ACTIONS YOU
CAN SEEK
 KNOWLEDGE AND LEARNING
 SELF CARE
 BOUNDARIES
 SUPPORT
 SELF CARE
 STOP ENABLING
 STOP BEING A VICTUM

44. Acceptance is an action
YOUR LIFE IS MADE UP OF:
IMAGES + REALITIES
You have choices:

45. IF YOUR IMAGE OF LIFE AND YOUR
REALITY OF LIFE ARE NOT THE
SAME!
IMAGE+REALITY=YOU
will be:

46. YOUR
CHOICES

47. Change Your Reality!
 Image + Reality = HAPPY
Find the NEW dog
YOU REALLY WANT!

48. Change your image!
(New)
Image + Reality = HAPPY
ACCEPT the
dog you have!

49. IT’S YOUR LIFE
ACCEPTANCE
IS A CHOICE

50. DO YOU HAVE ANY DOGS
YOU DON’T WANT?
OR
DO YOU HAVE ANY
IMAGES/REALTIES YOU NEED
TO CHANGE?
ACCEPTANCE IS A PROCESS!

51. Acceptance
 Is not complacency
 Related actions may be:
Reduce “Enabling”
Denial does not work

52. CHALLENGE
THREE
HOLDING ON

53. Holding On Can be a Problem!

54. HOLDING-ON
BEHAVIORS
•Negative
•Stuck in the past
•Fatigued
•Full of Resentment
•Sarcastic
•Angry

55. Letting Go IS A
Source of Power

56. Forgiveness


57. OPTIONS
 Seek help
 Talk to a friend or spouse
 Talk to a clergy
 Seek counseling
 Get on line and look for support
groups

58. “That is all I have to
say about that.”
Forrest Gump
So where do we go from hear?

59. CHALLENGE
FOUR
CLEAR
PRIORTIES

60. Understanding
Priorities

61. Order
Energy
Simplicity

62. What
you focus on
grows

63. Create
Positive
Mental
Images

65. Setting
Setting Boundaries
Boundaries
“Good fences
make good
“Good Fences Make
Good Neighbors”
neighbors”

66. Saying
No!

67. +
Sandwich
Technique
+

68. Elements of saying
“No”
Positive feeling message
Negative content message
Positive feeling message.

69. Positive Feeling
Response:
Thank you for asking.
I can hear this is important to
you!
I appreciate you thinking of me.
I can’t imagine the task that you
have in front of you.

70. Negative Content
 I would be glad to help if ….
 I would be glad to take you to the mall when…
 If would be willing to help you if you will…
 I am not available but feel free to ask me next
week.

71. Positive Feeling
Conclusion:
Thank you again for
considering me.
I appreciate your thinking of
me.
Feel free to call me next year.
If you can give me a weeks
notice

72. Refusal skills
 Focuson what you will do not
on what they have to do.
 You are welcome to … but I am going to
stay.
 Thankyou for offering but I am not
hungry.

73. Spend time
daily
reflecting
on the life you
would like!

74. Grow yourself new
each day.
Discover your potentials

75. Rituals
Daily activities that
rejuvenate and restore
you physically,
mentally and
spiritually.

77. “Life is 10% what happens
to me and 90% what I
choose to do about it! All
I can do is play on the
one string I have and that
is my attitude!”
Charles Swindoll

78. Attitude is Positively
impacted by
 Our beliefs
 Our choices
 The amount of power we give to
someone or something else
 By getting out of ourselves

79. Create An
Attitude
of
Gratitude

80. Give Back
Get out of yourself!

81. If you want to be
enthusiastic,
you have to act
enthusiastic!

82. Quiet your often andFconsciously!
re
qu
u r ie t
lf en
se
yo u
Q
tl
y
Deep
Breathing

83. HUMOR
“Laughter is the best
medicine”

84. Muscular Strength
and
Muscular Endurance
Cardiovascular
Flexibility
Exercise
SEEK TO KNOW
YOURSELF
PHYSICALLY

85. Eat to live…
Eat consciously

86. Seek Healthy
Relationships
Take time to keep your
relationships current.
Leave no business
unfinished

87. Pray and/or
Reflection
 Taketime daily to be with yourself
and to listen to the voice inside.
 Prayer and Meditation are avenues
to finding peace and healing the
soul

88. Be Expressive
 JOY IN THE CREATION YOURSELF IN AND
 LOOSE THE MOMENT
JOY IN THE
CREATION

89. If you always do
What you always did,
You will always feel
What you always
felt!

90. It’s your choice
Enjoy the Chocolate

91. “Life is like
a box of
chocolates”

92. Dr. Jim Scott
For more information:
Call 517-784-1332
Websitecontact: http://drjimscott.com
On line course:
Managing Stress and Holistic Health
HPF 283 Jackson Community
College