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The 15 lac taka question
World tour or money-sucking
wedding traditions?
By all means, I’ve never been married, so you
might ask, ‘What could an amateur possibly know
about how I want to celebrat...
A single event where out of 100 possible things,
probably 6 will go according to what the brides
want, 30 according to wha...
Weddings today are hardly about getting
married. Today, they are about renting the most
luxurious venues; they are about w...
Today, as guests leave a wedding, they
disapprovingly talk of the 50k dress and the
overly done makeup the bride looked at...
The point I’m trying to make is simple: The
400+ guests who attend your wedding will never
be pleased. But wait a second. ...
Now think about the alternate scenario. The one
where you *ahem* don’t spend a fortune for a
single day. The possibilities...
Exhibit B: INVEST! Or better still, start a
business together! Anything can give you a
better future than an overpriced we...
I think if both the bride and groom want a
wedding that’s small and simple, they should get
to have that wedding without s...
Couples should be allowed to create their own
definitions of happy without worrying about
what people will say. The people...
I say it’s not worth having the
money-sucking wedding traditions
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The 15 Lac Taka Question: World Tour or Money Sucking Wedding Traditions?

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Why spend such an overwhelming amount of money on just one day when you can put that money to MUCH better use?

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The 15 Lac Taka Question: World Tour or Money Sucking Wedding Traditions?

  1. 1. The 15 lac taka question World tour or money-sucking wedding traditions?
  2. 2. By all means, I’ve never been married, so you might ask, ‘What could an amateur possibly know about how I want to celebrate the biggest day of my life?’ Yes, I probably don’t know enough to pass judgments on people who do, in fact, like lavish, ostentatious weddings (passing judgments is again not what I’m trying to do). But I do know one thing: I can’t imagine spending every penny I have saved, or every inch of money my parents saved for me, on a single event (okay, 3 events since we are Bangladeshis, and we always seem to have n+3 events for every n (where n= main event)).
  3. 3. A single event where out of 100 possible things, probably 6 will go according to what the brides want, 30 according to what your chacha- chachi-fuppa-fuppi want, 60 according to ‘what would the 400 guests who we barely know prefer?’ and 4 according to the grooms (Men, I’m truly sorry for this one). For a middle class family in Bangladesh, the average wedding comes at a price tag of around 12-15 lac BDT. We are still talking about a single wedding right? Yep. Back in the days when our parents got married, this amount to be spent for a wedding would have been unimaginable. But think about it.
  4. 4. Weddings today are hardly about getting married. Today, they are about renting the most luxurious venues; they are about wearing the most pricey dresses you’ll probably never wear again; they are about spending around 30K on makeup that rarely ever makes you look like the beautiful person you are (at least upfront); they are about hiring the most qualified (and often expensive) photographers who make you look somewhat okay despite the makeup fiasco. So, where’s the wedded bliss?
  5. 5. Today, as guests leave a wedding, they disapprovingly talk of the 50k dress and the overly done makeup the bride looked at best ‘mediocre’ in (the guests are not pleased). They pass judgments on how it would have been better if the groom was a ‘tad’ bit taller (the guests are not pleased). They scoff at the chicken that obviously lacked enough salt (nope, still not pleased). They criticize the decorations, the music and all the arrangements which somehow are never good enough (the guests are.. see where I’m going with this?)
  6. 6. The point I’m trying to make is simple: The 400+ guests who attend your wedding will never be pleased. But wait a second. Weren’t most of the extravagant arrangements you made done for pleasing these very guests? Showing off at a wedding (at times going well beyond your capacities) just so that society gives you that nod of approval which really has no value at all in the couple’s marital happiness, is something that not only leaves the ones paying for the events physically and financially strained, but it also makes zero contribution to the young couple’s future.
  7. 7. Now think about the alternate scenario. The one where you *ahem* don’t spend a fortune for a single day. The possibilities are endless! Exhibit A: THAT euro trip you’ve always wanted to take, but could never save up enough for? Have a small wedding with your family and closest friends (translation: actually have fun), and use the money to travel the world. Wouldn’t that make for one heck of a good answer to the question- ‘So, how did you celebrate your wedding?’ Ans: ‘Ah nothing too loud, just travelled the world with the love of my life!’ Heck yes!
  8. 8. Exhibit B: INVEST! Or better still, start a business together! Anything can give you a better future than an overpriced wedding. Exhibit C: Save that money. Put it aside so you can buy a house a couple of years down the lane. Or even better, go for that masters degree you always craved!
  9. 9. I think if both the bride and groom want a wedding that’s small and simple, they should get to have that wedding without society looking at them with those judgy little eyes. Because some 20-30 years later, you might not remember all the things you did at the wedding, but you will most definitely remember all the things you wanted to do, but couldn’t. The wedding should celebrate the humble beginning of the couple, and most importantly, the wedding should be about what the two people want.
  10. 10. Couples should be allowed to create their own definitions of happy without worrying about what people will say. The people aren’t the ones the couple will spend 50 years of their lives with! I say, break out of the societal stereotypes. Get married at a masjid/church/a nice backyard, throw a party later for your friends and family (maybe separately, just saying), and then pack your bags and have the greatest wedding reception amidst the Swiss Alps, or gaze into infinity while watching the Northern Lights. Fantasy much?
  11. 11. I say it’s not worth having the money-sucking wedding traditions

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