20. Chapter 1
Who Am I?
Discovering My True Identity
Because knowing who you are
and God’s plan for you is key
to your happiness and
understanding of how much
God loves you.
22. Exit Slip
1. What was one thing Mother Teresa or Bl. Pier Giorgio Frasatti
do to show love to their brothers and sisters in Christ?
2. What is one question ToB asks/answers?
3. Where is your ultimate destination?
Name/#
1.
2.
3.
24. If you ask me… [p. 4]
In your composition book, jot down your answers to these
question. Just write the words in your composition book. No
need to write entire sentence.
❖ 1. If I had to leave home tonight and could take only take one
thing with me, I would take ________________.
❖ 2. When I was eight years old, my idea of freedom was
___________________.
❖ 3. I think a human person needs __________ to survive.
❖ 4. I think a human person needs _____________ to thrive.
25. Example
❖ 1. my phone and charger
❖ 2. sleeping as late as I wanted
❖ 3.
❖ 4.
26. If you ask me… [p. 4] Sharing
❖ Talk to a partner and share what you put for #1
❖ Now share with 3-4 people next to you what you put for
#2
27. If you ask me… [p. 4] Sharing
❖ 1. If I had to leave home tonight and could take only take
one thing with me, I would take ________________.
❖ 2. When I was eight years old, my idea of freedom was
___________________.
❖ 3. I think a human person needs __________ to survive.
❖ 4. I think a human person needs _____________ to
thrive.
29. Bridging the Gap
❖ If you walked into a room full of
strangers and had to identify
yourself without writing your
actual name, what would your
name tag say?
❖ Would you describe your
relationships?
❖ Your personality?
❖ What you like to do?
❖ What you like?
34. If you ask me… [p. 4]
❖ 1. Please describe three relationships that helped make
you who you are today.
❖ 2. Explain what makes humans different from animals.
35. To the Core [p.5]
❖ Happiness
❖ i. Everyone wants to be ______________.
❖ ii. Happiness depends on our ______________.
❖ iii. We oftentimes look for happiness in all the ____________
____________.
❖ (Empty Heart Dude poster!)
❖ iv. We were made by ________ and for ________, and will only
be truly happy when we give our hearts to Him and live like
_______________. (St. Augustine quote!)
36.
37.
38. To the Core [p.5]
❖ Happiness
❖ i. Everyone wants to be happy.
❖ ii. Happiness depends on our choices.
❖ iii. We oftentimes look for happiness in all the wrong places and
in all the wrong ways.
❖ (Empty Heart Dude poster!)
❖ iv. We were made by God and for God, and will only be truly
happy when we give our hearts to Him and live like saints. (St.
Augustine quote!)
39. Page 6-8
❖ a. TOB asks and answers 2 main questions:
❖ i. __________________________________
❖ ii. __________________________________________
❖ b. VOCAB ____________________: ___________________________________
❖ c. VOCAB Human Person:
❖ i. Both a _________ and a _________
❖ ii. Made in the ___________ and __________________ of God
❖ iii. Is __________________ and __________________
❖ iv. Meant to be a ___________
❖ v. NOT just a smart ________________
40. Page 6-8
❖ a. TOB asks and answers 2 main questions:
❖ i. Who am I?
❖ ii. How should I live?
❖ b. VOCAB Incarnation: God becomes man (Jesus)
❖ c. VOCAB Human Person:
❖ i. Both a body and a soul
❖ ii. Made in the image and likeness of God
❖ iii. Is unique and unrepeatable
❖ iv. Meant to be a SAINT
❖ v. NOT just a smart monkey
41. To the Core [p.5]
❖ -Read page 5.
❖ -Jot down the answers to these two questions:
❖ 1. What do human beings desire?
❖ 2. How do these desires evolve or change as we grow older?
❖ Discuss.
42. Read “Looking for the Beach,”
p. 6-8.
❖ Each group will discuss its question and present their
answers or conclusions to the class.
❖ Group 1: What makes a person truly happy?
❖ Group 2: What makes a person matter?
❖ Group 3: Why does the Incarnation challenge how we
think about ourselves?
❖ Group 4: Why do we study “Theology of the Body”?
43. Ch. 1 Bridging the Gap [p. 4]
❖ --Please read page 4 and answer the following
questions:
❖ 1. What would you choose as the three most
fundamental characteristics to describe humans?
❖ 2. Why do you think God created us and became one of
us to redeem us?
44. ❖ -Read page 5.
❖ -Jot down the answers to these two questions:
❖ 1. What do human beings desire?
❖ 2. How do these desires evolve or change as we grow older?
❖ Discuss.
45. ❖ Humans have a deep desire to grow up, be independent,
and find happiness.
❖ The more freedom you have, the more your happiness
depends on your own choices.
❖ As your life changes, it is very important that you know
who you really are as a human person.
47. Who Am I?
How Should I Live?
Theology of the Body’s Two Questions
48. The body, and it alone, is capable of making visible
what is invisible: the spiritual and the divine. It was
created to transfer into the visible reality of the world,
the mystery hidden since time immemorial in God,
and thus to be a sign of it.
Theology of the Body Thesis
49.
50.
51.
52.
53.
54. Session 1 Recap
❖ Our view about sex has been grossly distorted by the
modern world because of people like Playboy’s Hugh
Hefner.
❖ Fortunately, inspired by the Holy Spirit, St. John Paul II,
wrote a series of talks, The Theology of the Body, that
teaches us about God and the purpose of our existence, as
discovered and revealed through our bodies.
❖ Theology of the Body is God’s map given to help us find our
way to true happiness and fulfillment as human persons.
❖ The Theology of the Body asks and answers two main
questions: Who am I? and How should I live?
55. Session 1 Recap
❖ Each and every one of us were created in the image and
likeness of God, we were born with both a body and soul, and
we were given the gift of free will in order to choose love.
❖ God intended for Adam and Eve to live in communion with Him
and have a pure and perfect relationship with Him, but because
Adam and Eve committed Original Sin, Original Sin triggered
the cycle of broken relationships and selfishness.
❖ In order to restore and heal us from the brokenness and
divisions because of Original Sin, God allowed the Incarnation,
which allowed Jesus to give His own life on the Cross: to defeat
sin and death.
❖ Christ is the key to understanding our humanity because He
came to restore creation to the purity of humanity’s origins.
56.
57. Session 2
Body and Soul &
How Should I
Act?
Because the language of our
bodies should say that we are
men and women of virtue.
62. Body Language Bible Skit
1. Mt 25:36: I was sick and you visited me.
2. Mk 10:21: Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor
3. Mt 6:6: But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and
pray to your Father in secret.
4. Lk 9:3: Take nothing for the journey, neither walking stick, nor sack, nor
food, nor money, and let no one take a second tunic.
5. Acts 2:42: They devoted themselves to the teaching of the apostles
and to the communal life, to the breaking of the bread and to the
prayers.
6. Gal 5:1: For freedom Christ set us free; so stand firm and do not submit
again to the yoke of slavery.
7. Eph 5:1: So be imitators of God, as beloved children.
72. Session 2 Recap
❖ The language of your body is important because actions
speak louder than words.
❖ Jesus was the “human-est” person to ever live. The
more we live like Jesus, the more truly ourselves we will
become because the more truly ourselves we are the
happier we will be. That it means to be FULLY human.
❖ First we make our habits, then our habits make us.
❖ Virtues form one’s character to be good, holy, and
happy, while vices do the opposite.
73. Session 2 Recap
❖ Virtuous behavior is synonymous with truly human behavior because
the more our bodies practice virtuous behavior, practice how to love,
the more our bodies become how God destined them to act.
❖ The greatest way to be men and women of virtue and receive God’s
grace is through the sacraments, most especially the Eucharist and
Reconciliation.
❖ If you want to become your true self (St. INSERT YOUR NAME), you
can’t be a different “you” depending on who you’re with. Ask God,
“Who do YOU want me to be?”
❖ Practice makes perfect. If you want to be able to have a Christ-
centered and experience true agape in your future vocation, especially
marriage, it’s most important to practice the virtuous habits that will
allow you to reach to your desired fulfilling destination.
74.
75. Session 3
Sex, Love and
Chastity
Because sex isn’t just
something that we do, it’s also
who we are.
78. God said it was “not
good for the man to
be alone.”
79. Complementar
ity
The notion that the differences
between men and women
aren’t bad, but good because
they bring out the best in one
another.
80.
81.
82.
83. The Church teaches that
sexuality and sex are good
and beautiful, not bad and
dirty as many people
84. “Hardly anyone today thinks about
sex...”
... We joke about it, dream about it,
lust about it, hear songs about it,
and watch TV shows and movies about it.
But we don’t ever really THINK about it.
- Jason Evert
Why didn’t God pick another way
for people to come into the world?
86. Body Language of Sex
❖ The body language of sex says, “We have no barriers.
I’m making myself totally vulnerable with you, so I
trust you to be faithful to me for life, and you can also
trust me for life.”
❖ In other words, “I give all of myself to you.”
❖ The language of marriage (the wedding vows) is, “I give
all of myself to you.”
❖ “I freely give myself to you, so freely that I’m ready to
be a parent with you.”
❖ Sex, therefore, belongs within marriage!
101. Abstinence
❖ is refraining from sexual intimacy before being married
Lust
❖ is the vice that causes people to view and treat others as
objects to be used instead of persons to be loved
Modesty
❖ is speaking, dressing, and acting in a way that
encourages others to love, not lust
Chastity
❖ is the virtue that helps us love ourselves and others
through our bodies
115. Session 3 Recap
❖ Men and women are uniquely different and bring out the best in each
other.
❖ The Church teaches that sexuality and sex are good and beautiful, not
bad and dirty as many people mistakenly say.
❖ The purpose of sex is to procreate, anything that goes against that is
against God’s plan for our sexuality.
❖ Sex, like fire, in the right place, can be an amazing blessing in your life
(warmth or fireworks), but if used wrongly it will damage you
emotionally, spiritually and even physically because sex is powerful but
must be respected. If it’s misused, the consequences are serious, just
like a forest fire or a house that burns to the ground.
❖ The body language of sex says, “I give all of myself to you.” The
language of marriage (the wedding vows) is, “I give all of myself to
you.” Sex, therefore, belongs within marriage.
116. Session 3 Recap
❖ Modern society has divorced sex with procreation, as a result,
catastrophic consequences have ensued: broken families, non-
traditional families, same-sex marriage, homosexuality, gender
confusion, “safe” sex options, abortion, IVF babies, and
surrogate moms.
❖ A person’s understanding of chastity, abstinence, modesty,
purity and lust dictates how you should treat others, especially
those you are attracted to.
❖ Catholic wedding vows promise that one’s love will always be:
Free, Total, Faithful and Fruitful.
❖ Treat others, especially those you date, the way you would want
your future spouse, your brother or sister, or even your own
future children to be treated.
117. Session 4
To Use or Not to
Use?
Because recognizing what true
love is is the key to your
happiness.
118. How Porn Affects the Brain
Video
https://www.youtube.com/watch
?v=qBtgA0ZLWo0&feature=yout
u.be
119.
120.
121.
122. The Language of
Contraception
❖ When a couple introduces contraception into their
sexual union, they’re saying with their bodies, “I refuse to
give you all of myself. I won’t give you my fertility. I
refuse to receive all of you. I won’t receive your fertility.”
❖ Instead of becoming one flesh, they bring a barrier into
the act of sex—a barrier between their full love and gift
of self.
123. The Language of
Contraception
❖ Contraception treats fertility as something that needs to
be fixed.
❖ Couples who use contraception treat pregnancy as a
disease against which they must be protected or
vaccinated. They don’t see the gift of fertility as
something to be received with joy.
124. Birth Control for Medical
Reasons
❖ https://www.catholic.com/qa/birth-control-for-medical-
reasons
125. The Language of
Contraception
❖ “If I can’t use a condom, then how am I supposed to protect
myself?”
❖ Does it really sound like love if you’re trying to protect
yourself somehow from your beloved and his/her fertility?
❖ We protect ourselves from enemies, not our spouses’
fertility or the child that may come from a union of love.
❖ We’re called to receive our beloved without reserve.
❖ If you’re not married and ready to receive that person fully,
it’s not time to give that person your body.
❖ God didn't design us to give ourselves away in pieces.
126. Consequences of Not Using Your
Sexuality According to the Way God
Designed It to Be Used
138. Top Googled porn star exits industry, reveals
shocking truth about life on the inside
❖ https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/top-googled-porn-
star-exits-industry-reveals-shocking-truth-about-life-on-t
139. Sex Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are
Dealing With Porn-Obsessed Boys
❖ https://fightthenewdrug.org/sex-before-kissing-15-year-
old-girls-dealing-with-boys/
145. IntegrityRestored.com
❖ Our mission at Integrity Restored is to help restore the
integrity of individuals, spouses, and families that have been
affected by pornography and pornography addiction. Integrity
Restored provides education, training, encouragement, and
resources to break free from pornography, heal relationships,
and to assist parents in preventing and responding to
pornography exposure which is so devastating in the lives of
our children. We are also a resource that trains and helps
clergy in assisting families at the parish level, so that the
domestic church truly becomes what it is, the human space in
which we encounter Christ.
157. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#1:
The Flip-Flopper
Mr. Can’t-make-up-his-mind flip flops back and
forth from a boyfriend to an ex. The sad part is
you are just one of many girls that “he cannot live
without.” While he goes back and forth, you are
eagerly waiting for him to come back to you like a
puppy waiting for that treat. However, this vicious
cycle keeps on going. You are hoping “the spark
will come back” once you are together again, and
he is just hoping for another “quick fix.” When a
guy really loves a woman, she doesn’t have to
plead with him to commit. He’d commit to her
even if she lived on the moon.
http://fiatblogforwomen.com/2013/12/14/top-10-guys-to-avoid/
158. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#2: The Problem
Child (aka: The
Fixer-Upper)
You know the type, bad to the bone. This
man has struggled with an addiction, the law,
or a combination of things that lead him to
being misunderstood. After forming an
attachment to this boy you start to feel sorry
for his predicament and start defending him.
Naturally the next step is trying to change
him, this will never work because he should
be fixed before he is “datable.” Falling in love
with the problem child is like moving into a
dilapidated home because you plan to
remodel it as soon as you win the lottery.
159. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#3:
The Walking
Hormone
The walking hormone is the Hugh Hefner of
men. Why? Because he is a sex fiend. This
sexual deviant will make you feel bad though
for not giving in to his desires. The phrase
“Aren’t you into me though?” Seems rather
familiar to your ears. The words “walking
hormone” sound a lot like “teenage boy.”
However, some men control their hormones
while others are controlled by them. Lastly, if
a man prefers porn to the love of an actual
woman, let him commit to his imaginary
girlfriend.
160. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#4:
Smooth Criminal
This little devil knows how to talk a
women into thinking his intentions were
her decisions. Persuasion is the weapon
of choice, like Don Draper in Mad Man.
He feeds women line after line just to
dispose of them after one fling. He might
seem sincere, but learn to see through
his mask of lies.
161. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#5:
The Control
Freak
His title is self-explanatory. There is an
imaginary list that he has for you and you
wouldn’t dare step over one of those because
you fear the outcome. This includes
interrogation, insults, guilt, pressure, and
detachment from friends or family. Care is
good, but this type of devotion is just plain
unhealthy. You should never have to feel
unsafe or the need to hide anything. You are
not a dog, so don’t act like he’s your master.
162. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#6:
The Older Guy
In the words of Ke$ha: “D-I-N-O-S-A-U-R a dinosaur
An O-L-D M-A-N. You’re just an old man hitting on
me what? You need a cat scan!” I would not trust
everything Ke$ha sings about in her songs, but she
honestly hit this one dead on. When an older man is
interested in you, you really have to stop and ask
yourself, “what is he REALLY interested in?” What
are his motives? You might be scared to find out the
truth. When you find a man that is considerably older
than you, there is a gap of interest. If he is older than
your brother, who is ten years older than you, he’s
probably too old.
163. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#7:
The Potty Mouth
It is important to evaluate a man’s words
because his speech expresses his inmost
desires. His speech may reveal his unfaithful
heart. So, his mouth affects both of you. Once
you become comfortable with this type of talk,
you begin to feel comfortable with the actions
associated with it. “Dirty talk makes us feel
comfortable with dirty actions.” Not only does
this show his immaturity, lack of intelligence,
and undeveloped vocabulary, it expresses his
impure and selfish intentions.
164. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#8:
The Tearful
Cheater
This one in a tricky guy. You think he is really
sorry, but it is all an act. The truth of the
matter is: you deserve WAY WAY WAY
better than to be cheated on. End of story.
Period. The cause of cheating isn’t the
absence of physical perfection in a girlfriend,
it’s caused by the presence of infidelity in the
heart of the boyfriend. Even if he is sorry for
cheating, you deserve better. Odds are he
will cheat again. Your little heart is worth
much more than that.
165. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#9:
The Spiritual
Midget
Do you want a man or a mouse? If you are
like me, you want a hunk-a hunk- a burnin’
love (aka a MAN). The spiritual midget is the
guy that does not value prayer, religion, or
faith in general. And even worse than that, he
does not see why it is so important to you.
Stop lowering the bar! You need a man who
will lead you in your faith towards the ultimate
goal: heaven.
166. The Top Ten Guys to Avoid
#10: Mr. I-Don’t-Have-
Enough-Social-Skills-to-
Meet-Girls-Without-the-
Internet
In the words of Kip from Napoleon
Dynamite: “Don’t be jealous that I have
been chatting online with babes all day.”
“Well things are getting pretty serious
right now. I mean, we chat online for, like,
two hours every day so I guess you could
say things are getting pretty serious.”
Enough said.
167. If a woman wants to receive a more
dignified response from men,
she needs one quality above all: a
169. If you’re not dating with eyes on
forever,
you’re just dating to break up.
170. Perfect Man Wish List
❖ I want him to by my best friend.
❖ He needs to love God more than he loves
me.
❖ Instead of bringing out my weaknesses,
he brings out my dignity.
❖ He’s kind and gentle with me.
❖ He builds me up and doesn’t wear me
down.
❖ He treats his mom with love.
❖ Besides respecting me, he respects
himself.
❖ I want him to have strong morals so I don’t
need to convince him of mine.
171. The key to your happiness
in dating relationships is
having patience and self-
control.
172.
173. The Inconvenient Truth Many Pro-Lifers Don’t
Want to Face About Contraception
❖ http://corproject.com/192-the-inconvenient-truth-many-
pro-lifers-dont-want-to-face/
174. Case Studies
❖ Read the different case studies by clicking here
❖ Analyze the situation.
❖ What level of the purity ladder is each character on?
❖ Describe what’s going on using any of the following
words: sex, chastity, lust (eros), love (agape),
modesty, purity, abstinence, language of the body,
vice, virtue, habit
176. How Can I Be Single
Without Being Weird? Video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uv
vfE6CKA4Y&index=3&list=PL0A1vaQ
SD1PVSUTbrST96VuYheIo0zr7L
177. Vocation
A call from God to live a specific kind of
life for the Church.
Discernment
Actively seek to discover the vocation
God has for you.
178. Vocations
❖ Vocation #1: Holiness
❖ To become the best version of
yourself
❖ All people are called to be
saints!
❖ Vocation #2:
❖ Husband or wife
❖ Single person
❖ Religious brother or sister
❖ Priest or deacon
179.
180.
181. A Surprise and a Pure Love Promise
Video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=
DyWTcb9KCtc
