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Steve Vitto Positive Approaches For All Children

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A review of traditional views of discipline and why they are often problematic, and inneffective; and then a presentation of research based approaches for treating challenging behaviors

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Steve Vitto Positive Approaches For All Children

  1. 1. POSITIVE DISCIPLINE and CHILDREN Steve Vitto &
  2. 2. What is Discipline? <ul><li>providing training that develops self-control, character, or orderliness and efficiency </li></ul><ul><li>to instruct or educate; to prepare by instruction; to train </li></ul><ul><li>to love, guide, nurture, & support </li></ul><ul><li>providing strategies that build community and relationships </li></ul><ul><li>focusing on self-control and sustained learning </li></ul><ul><li>viewing behavioral occurrences as opportunities to teach and support </li></ul>
  3. 3. &quot;...subjection to rule; submissiveness to control; to keep in subjection.&quot; It seems there are two schools of thought on what discipline is. One involves helping a person function more effectively in the world, and the other involves keeping a person doing what someone else wants him to do--as in slavery.” B.E. Penel PhD “… rarely have I heard the word discipline used to mean helping a child function more effectively in the world. The usual meaning involves finding ways to make the child do what the parents want him to do…” B.E. Penel PhD HISTORICALLY DISCIPLINE HAS HAD TWO DISTINCT MEANINGS:
  4. 4. Positive Behavioral Support <ul><li>Is a proactive, positive approach toward child behavior </li></ul><ul><li>Focuses on developing replacement skills </li></ul><ul><li>Focuses on sustained learning of social/behavior skills over time </li></ul><ul><li>Develops self control as opposed to externally controlling children </li></ul>
  5. 5. For Some Discipline Has Taken on Military Connotations <ul><li>“ He needs to do what he is told without </li></ul><ul><li>questioning…” </li></ul><ul><li>“ He needs to know who is in charge.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ He needs to learn that when he messes </li></ul><ul><li>up there are painful consequences.” </li></ul>
  6. 6. &quot;My vision is that all children are raised lovingly and non-violently and with discipline that motivates them through love, not through fear.” - Deborah Critzer, Positive Parenting  
  7. 7. What is Not Positive Discipline? <ul><li>Approaches intended to hurt or cause discomfort </li></ul><ul><li>Leaving a child in the dark about natural or </li></ul><ul><li>logical consequences </li></ul><ul><li>Consequences that humiliate, degrade, or bully </li></ul><ul><li>Strategies leading to external control or “boss management” that do not involve guiding or teaching </li></ul><ul><li>Strategies based on revenge, retaliation, or “winning” a power struggle. </li></ul><ul><li>Cookbook approaches that fail to view children as </li></ul><ul><li>having unique learning styles and fail to focus on investing in community and relationships </li></ul><ul><li>View behavioral occurrences as an opportunity to punish or establish external control </li></ul>
  8. 8. What is Missing in “Cook Book” Approaches <ul><li>An emphasis on the uniqueness of each child </li></ul><ul><li>A focus on individual assessment and need </li></ul><ul><li>A focus on each child’s learning style and history </li></ul><ul><li>An admission that there are no quick fixes, no miracle cures, and no replacement for spending the time and effort that is required in developing a loving meaningful relationship with a child </li></ul><ul><li>An admission that the “true expert” is a person that realizes there is no one solution, no one path for all children </li></ul><ul><li>A realization that all behaviors meet needs and that each child’s needs is a unique balance of nature vs. nurture </li></ul>
  9. 9. What is the appeal of cook book approaches? <ul><li>Quick and easy </li></ul><ul><li>Make us feel good </li></ul><ul><li>Are convenient </li></ul><ul><li>Eliminate the confusion of using multiple approaches </li></ul><ul><li>Wrapped in a slick package </li></ul><ul><li>Are generally sold by a dynamic speaker </li></ul><ul><li>Are a great deal for the money </li></ul>
  10. 10. View of the Child <ul><li>POSITIVE NEGATIVE </li></ul><ul><li>- Inquisitive & Curious - Selfish and Manipulative </li></ul><ul><li>- Innocent and Naïve - Deceitful & Cunning </li></ul><ul><li>- A heart worth reaching -A “little demon” or “monster” </li></ul><ul><li>- Capable of self control -Need to be controlled </li></ul><ul><li>- Need for Autonomy -Need to be managed </li></ul><ul><li>-Can learn to process -Words and processing are a </li></ul><ul><li>and problem solve a waste of time </li></ul><ul><li>- Responds to love and - Responds to punishment and </li></ul><ul><li>relationship logical consequences </li></ul><ul><li>-Proactive - Reactive </li></ul><ul><li>“ The child learns best when “ He deserves,he is winning, he is </li></ul><ul><li>he is lead and supported getting way with …” </li></ul>
  11. 11. Positive Behavioral Supports for Parents <ul><li>Recognize that behaviors meet needs </li></ul><ul><li>Teach children healthy ways to meet needs </li></ul><ul><li>Demonstrate, model, and practice </li></ul><ul><li>Reinforce effort and celebrate accomplishments </li></ul><ul><li>Provide preventative environments </li></ul><ul><li>Provide consequences that teach and restore </li></ul>
  12. 12. Acknowledge Needs of Behavior <ul><li>Attention </li></ul><ul><li>Escape/Avoidance </li></ul><ul><li>Tangible </li></ul><ul><li>Power & Control </li></ul><ul><li>Anger/Frustration </li></ul><ul><li>Sensory </li></ul><ul><li>Love and Acceptance </li></ul>
  13. 13. Recommended Programs and Resources for Positive Parenting <ul><li>Positive Discipline </li></ul><ul><li>Discipline with Dignity </li></ul><ul><li>positiveparenting.com </li></ul><ul><li>Effective Black Parenting Program </li></ul><ul><li>www.teachmorelovemore.org </li></ul><ul><li>Positive Behavioral Supports </li></ul><ul><li>The Boys Town Curriculum </li></ul><ul><li>Video Training Series </li></ul>
  14. 14. Albert Schweitzer once said: &quot;There are three ways we teach our children. The first is by example; the second is by example; and the third is by example.&quot;
  15. 16. THE END For More Information on Positive Approaches for challenging behavior Write Steve Vitto at [email_address] Or send for Steve’s Book, In Search of a Heart, Creating Caring, Conscience, and Character in All Kid (A text in using positive a relationship driven approaches for all children), Copyright, 2007 This 450 page text contains researched based methods for implementing positive classroom management strategies and treating children with severe behavior challenges (Cost: $30.00) A 2007 PBS PROJECT

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